Welcome to UnFuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism, and coaching to rewire your brain

and get what you want in life.

And now here's your host, Harvard Law School grad, Feminist Rockstar, and Master Coach, Kara Lowenthal. Hello my chickens, how are all of my fine feathered friends or non-feathered friends?

If you are a chicken who doesn't have feathers, you are part of the flock as well. I'm a little bit giddy.

A little bit loopy day.

I've been working on the planning for clutch college,

which I know I've talked about a few times, and one of the things we're going to dive into really deeply is family relationships.

Whether it's your family of origin or your chosen family, or your family by marriage, or your bio family, your adopted family, whatever family relationships

you struggle with.

And so because of that, I've been thinking a lot about what is it that gets in the way of are having the kind of loving connected fun

joyful peaceful supportive relationships that we want to have with other people,

whether they're family or anything else.

And so today I want to teach you

how to think about other people's models,

and I'm going to explain what that means

if you don't know what a model is don't worry.

But I kind of want to set the stage because I think that one of the main causes of suffering that we experience in our human lives is the meaning that we make and kind of project on to other people's

words or actions.

Or sometimes just

torturing ourselves with our imaginary idea of what their thoughts are.

It's like the electrical signals in our brains are hallucinating what the

electrical signals in their brains might be hallucinating,

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