Three Steps to Regain Control When Emotions Take Over

Negotiate Anything

American Negotiation Institute

Business, Education, Self-improvement

4.7 • 748 Ratings

🗓️ 25 March 2026

⏱️ 59 minutes

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Summary

What if the real reason you freeze in high-stakes moments isn’t a lack of confidence — but a nervous system trying to protect you? In this powerful conversation, somatic coach and author Jay Moon Fields reveals why so many high-performing professionals sabotage themselves in the moments that matter most — and how to reclaim control using the intelligence of the body. Drawing from over 20 years of work with Fortune 100 leaders and organizations like Apple, the United Nations, and Patagonia, Jay shares the surprising truth behind people-pleasing, emotional shutdown, and overthinking. You’ll learn why your body often knows what’s happening before your mind does — and how learning to listen to those signals can transform the way you lead, communicate, and negotiate. Together, we explore Jay’s powerful “Hey, Wait” framework, a simple yet profound method for pausing in the middle of stressful interactions, reconnecting with your internal experience, and showing up with clarity instead of fear. In this episode, you’ll discover: Why high achievers often freeze, overthink, or people-please in critical moments The body signals that reveal when you’re abandoning yourself in conversations How to interrupt emotional hijacking before it takes over A practical 3-step method to stay grounded during difficult feedback, negotiations, and conflict Why learning to say “Hey, wait” can radically change how you relate to others — and yourself If you’ve ever walked away from a meeting thinking “Why didn’t I say what I meant to say?”, this episode will give you the tools to stop freezing, trust your instincts, and show up with presence when the stakes are highest. Because the most powerful conversations don’t start with better scripts — they start with better awareness of yourself.

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0:59.8	What if you're freezing up in your most important moments and sabotaging yourself without even realizing it?
1:06.1	You've been there.
1:07.1	The high stakes feedback session where your chest tightened and you went silent.
1:10.6	The crucial negotiation where you should have spoken up but didn't. The moment stakes feedback session where your chest tightened and you went silent. The crucial
1:11.1	negotiation where you should have spoken up but didn't. The moment your body betrayed you when you
1:15.7	needed confidence the most. Meet J. Moonfields, one of the world's leading experts in embodied
1:21.9	emotional intelligence and author of the globally used book, Teaching People Not Poses, with an average rating of 4.7 stars
1:29.3	and worked with powerhouses like Apple, the UN, and Patagonia. For over 20 years, Jay has helped
1:35.3	Fortune 100 executives and teams break free from people-pleasing, overthinking, and emotional
1:40.7	hijacking using her groundbreaking hayweight framework. Over the course of this episode,
1:46.0	you'll discover how to catch yourself before you freeze or overreact, the body signals that
1:50.7	reveal when you're abandoning yourself, and specific techniques to stay grounded when the stakes
1:55.4	are highest. Whether you're leading a high pressure team, navigating difficult conversations,
2:00.1	or tired of your emotions
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