This is a Really Gross Question, But You Can Learn From It
Love Life with Matthew Hussey
Matthew Hussey
4.8 • 2.9K Ratings
🗓️ 20 January 2017
⏱️ 5 minutes
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Summary
As someone who gives love advice for a living, I’ve heard it all. Or so I thought… until I got this insane email question from a listener. Now let me clarify that the question is gross not in a raunchy way (although there is a sexual component to it; nothing too scandalous)… but because of the self-centered, transactional nature of the relationship it depicts. At this point you’ll probably tune in because I’ve piqued your curiosity, but I encourage you to listen because there’s a lesson we can all learn here about – if nothing else – what NOT to do in a healthy relationship.
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| 0:00.0 | Matthew Hussey here with Love Life. Have you ever wondered whether you should date more |
| 0:06.5 | than one guy at a time? Every dating expert seems to have a different opinion on this. |
| 0:12.2 | But what did Guy has really think about a woman who keeps her options open? Well I'll tell |
| 0:17.4 | you how to get the answer at the end of the show. First, let's get into today's episode. |
| 0:22.8 | Today we're doing something a little different. We're going to be reading out a listener email. |
| 0:32.0 | I'm going to just say it. I was disturbed when I read this listener email for the first time. |
| 0:36.9 | I feel like you might be too if you're a sane rational person. So let's jump right in. This |
| 0:42.8 | is to do with relationships and transactions. You'll see what I mean when I read it. |
| 0:48.1 | Matt, my best friend wanted to upgrade her wedding diamond and proposed the following to her |
| 0:53.9 | husband. I'll give you 30 days of blow jobs in exchange for a bigger diamond. |
| 1:00.8 | Thoughts? Well, the husband agreed. She got her new diamond and everyone's happy. I love that |
| 1:07.6 | point. Everyone's happy. Clearly not, but let's keep going. But now she's gunning for a new car |
| 1:15.1 | and house upgrades. Has she gone too far? I'm just going to say it. This is a terrible person. |
| 1:24.9 | This is both a terrible relationship and a terrible person. Not only that, I'm not even letting |
| 1:29.4 | the guy off the hook. He's an idiot. That everyone in this is sorted and ugly and horrible. |
| 1:36.1 | Let's discuss why. Firstly, relationships are not about transactions. |
| 1:43.3 | The transactional nature. Let's even set aside the sexual element of this, which makes it even |
| 1:48.4 | more gross. But let's just take the mere fact that you're you're transacting in a relationship. |
| 1:55.0 | You give me this and I'll give you that. Right there, you've got the basis for a relationship that |
| 2:02.2 | isn't about a genuine giving spirit. It's about what can I get? Now, people would say to that, |
| 2:09.4 | well, Matt isn't it true that in any relationship, it's about both. You can't just keep giving all |
| 2:15.7 | the time and not getting in return. Of course, that's true. But that's not why you give in the first |
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