Do you feel like you're suffering from the first date curse? It's like you're walking around with a stamp on your forehead that says, I hate men. Just ghost me. Please use me. I'm a lesbian. Now, unless you have a tattoo on your face, then it is not a stamp. It's just adjusting your strategy and it's time for a change. So here are seven proven ways to be a charming first date, so we have men begging you for that second date and many more.

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Hey there, Adam Littlejit from Love Strategies.com where we help successful single women get out there and attract long-lasting love and do it with a proven strategy.

In this video, we're going to be talking about all about having that feminine charm code on that first date. Now, most people think that charm is something that you have or you don't have, and that's just not true. Here's exactly how to do it. Number one, build your sexy confidence. This is all about giving yourself that peck talk before you go on that first date, getting into that mindset, because confidence ultimately is just an emotion. It's that feeling

you get when you're like, I got it. Maybe you listen to something really positive, whether it's a podcast

or it's music. Maybe one of my favorites is listen to a comedian, getting myself that positive state

before a date, or one of my favorite tips to getting into that confident mindset is to call

one of your best positive friends. Like that friend that you get on the phone with them and you know they're going to make you laugh and get you in that really good mood. I mean, back in the day when I was single, I used to get so nervous before a date. Like literally, I'd be shaking if it was a big date. And I would literally call the same exact friend. His name actually happens to be Adam as well. And he's a really, really funny guy. And every time I call him, he'd have a funny story. It would just get me laughing. And it would help me get into that state. So I was radiating that type of confidence. And you can do the same exact thing. The next step is to just relax and just remove the pressure. Have you ever noticed that the harder you really tried to be super charming, the more awkward it can actually get?

So just remind yourself, before you go out and meet that guy, it's just a date.

He's probably more nervous about seeing you than you are of seeing him.

And let him be the one who's nervous.

Let him feel that pressure. I mean,

he's the guy. You're the woman. Let him impress you rather than you worrying about impressing him. I call this mindset outcome independence. Go on a date. Not worrying about the outcome. Is he going to like you? Are you going to be married? Are you going to be in a relationship? Are you going have children together, all that stuff.

Don't think about any of that stuff on the date.

Just go into it.

Now, you are you going to be married or you're going to be in a relationship are you going to have children together all that stuff don't think about any of that stuff on the date just go into it not worrying about the outcome and just be your absolute best energy and your best self and don't worry about it the more dates that you go on the more relaxed you'll be so think of it kind of like practice so if you're ready to get out there and start practicing some of these strategies just just leave a comment right there below say, I'm ready to start practicing. Number three is to warm up before you go on the date. Now here's the thing about being charming. It's all about your

mindset. I mean, have you ever gone out to a party or gone and met someone and you were just

like on fire? Like everything you say is just like clicking and you're just in that incredible state.

Whereas have you ever gone out other times and you meet someone and you're just feeling uncomfortable?

You're not in the right headspace and everything you say is just like a little bit awkward.

Well, this is something that I noticed as I was going out as a coach and helping lots of people in their love life.

And I started to notice that

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