Have you ever gone on a first date and just instantly clicked with a man and decided right then

in there that he is Mr. Wright for you and then you've literally married him on a beach in the Bahamas

in your head before he'd even finish dessert? Look, it's really easiest to stay calm and cool

and collected on a date when you're just not that into a guy. But when your dream man appears,

all of this just seems to vanish. You just lose your girl

game and you turn to mush. And then before you know it, you've leaned in way too much and then

he starts to pull away and you're wondering what the heck happened. Was it my breath? Nope. Was it my

outfit? Nope. Was it because I told him I eat canned tuna for breakfast? Possibly. Was it

because I'm so awesome that I intimidated him?

Definitely not.

The problem is that you just gave too much too soon.

You over-invested in him before he started investing in you.

You literally closed the doors to all the other potential guys before you even really knew who this guy was.

So repeat after me in the comments below.

Never give a man unearned affection.

Don't put him on the pedestal.

And if this is a dating pattern that you continue to repeat,

here are five tips to break that cycle of over-investing in one guy.

Number one, have such a busy social life that it's impossible for you to overinvest.

Look, women who have lots of passions, hobbies, interests, and friends, very rarely overinvest in a guy.

Because honestly, they just don't have time for it.

Whereas women who literally live on their phone and sit at home every single Friday and Saturday night hoping that he will call or text you, those tend to be the needy Nancy's of the world. By the way, sorry if your name is Nancy. It just works. So don't forget this core principle that we teach a love strategies. No man will want a life with you unless you have an amazing life without him. Oh, and by the way, vice versa. We also want him to have an amazing life without you.

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