This is the version for the guys. The guys had acts so many like, hey, you gave the cheat code on us.

Where's it for the women? And while the mindfulness must be podcast was never meant for guys,

for some reason on YouTube, especially, we're getting a lot more guys. So let me be honest.

The reason we exist is we want healthier marriages. We want men and women to find each other the right way and to stay married longer. There's an epidemic in our community of divorces. Don't we know it? Salaamā'a al-a-a-a-a-a-v-a-vri-tu. Welcome back to the podcast. We had done a part one, part two of the male cheat code. I'll put this up here, a link to the video. If, and chill out of you and watch that after. So I said, you know what? If that's what it takes

to help marriages happen the right way, sure do. Today's going to be the female code, five things that will make her once you or be attracted to you. Got to understand us women and how we think. Because just like women need to understand how men think and communicate, you need to

understand how we're wired. If you want to have a strong lasting marriage, you know, one where you

actually feel attracted to the person and you actually get the person you want. So grab a pen,

because we're going to get deep on this. Let's go. Welcome to the Mindfulness, Miss Speaks podcast,

a safe space to learn and grow into the best version of yourself that you're always meant to be. I'm your host, mindful Muslim, mom of five, big sister to the community and a licensed educator with 25 plus years and supporting tens of thousands of Muslim women worldwide. Now, I'm excited to share a ton of solutions to your problems on love, relationships, life balance, reconnecting with the less dependent on the a aile, getting back on track and more. So grab a cup of coffee and close out those tabs. These next 20 to 30 minutes are all about you. Let's get started. All right guys, so let's dive into this. And if you don't already know me, my name is Mindful, Mismah. I'm a marriage expert. I've been helping women for 25 years, how to get married and stay married. But today, we're going to throw in for the guys on Feminine female code. And ladies, you know, you're going to learn a little something about us, because, inshhhhhle, after doing this for so long, with tens of thousands of women in 100 plus countries. I'm telling you there are patterns on us.

I'm going to let the guys know a little bit of it. But in Shilat'a, it will also help you to be seen by the guys in our community. That way, we could feel like they understand us a bit better. So code number one, she needs to feel emotionally safe before anything else. And by the way, even though we only exclusively work with women,

there are men more and more who have come to times.

So this one brother Ahmed, he came to us.

He was a successful practicing engineer,

but he had some marriage issues.

He was already married.

And he felt like his marriage was falling apart,

but he couldn't understand why.

And I would want to know too.

He said this, I provide for my wife.

I pray five times a day. I don't look at other women. I'm a good husband. What is going on? She's like a stranger. She doesn't want to talk to me. She says I'm insensitive. She says this. She says that. And I don't know what I'm doing wrong. So I asked him. I said, let me ask you, when's the last time she came to you with an actual problem?

He said, well, actually, just last week,

she came to me with an actual problem? He said, well, actually, just last week, she came to me with, like, some issue going on with her sister. She was super stressed out. She was pretty emotional about it. So I told her, you know, you're just overthinking it. Just call your sister and tell her X, Y, Z. Problem solved. But instead of thanking me, she got even more upset. Like, what did I know? I didn't understand. So I said, Ahmed, let me ask you something. How do you feel when your boss dismisses your concerns at work? Like, you have some issue and you talk to him about it and you just feel kind of like, kind of terrible, like my opinion doesn't matter. I said, great, because that's exactly the way she feels. She feels dismissed. You're just putting her emotions as overthinking instead of trying to

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