Ladies, ladies, ladies.

All right, right now, I'm just gonna make a big bold statement. We must start putting our health first. All right, I'm gonna repeat that. We must start putting our health first. Have a hell, are we gonna keep showing up? Day in, day out, crushing it. Being there for our family, being there for our friends, living the life we want, and living until we're 90 or 100 like I want to. The truth is, we have to start learning all the stuff that's coming out about women's help. And so today, I've got the health and wellness icon herself, my girl, Jay, Jay Virgin, is in the house, and we're just gonna dive deep, no BS, on all the freaking health myths that have been out there that we need to start the bunking so that we can actually start to lean into the ways in which we can make ourselves and our hormones more healthy. Now in case you don't know J.J. Virgin is a four-time best-selling author, celebrity nutrition expert, fitness expert and podcast host. So guys, get freaking ready, get your pen, get your paper because this is going to be very detailed on how we dive deep in what and how we can become metabolically healthy in order for us to show up and be freaking bad asses that we want to be. And right before we dive into the episode, guys, please do rate and review this. Honestly, my goal, my big freaking audacious goal is to impact women on a global scale. And so I need your help. Please rate with me, share this episode with your homie, and let's start helping women take control over the health. I could figure out what someone's predicted metabolic rate was, you know, and then I could give them the right amount of exercise, the right amount of food, and they would lose one to two pounds a week. Easy peasy. Didn't work. I was taught in graduate school that it was calories in, calories out. That was the next myth I was going to bring out. Okay well let's get this one, cause this one makes me insane.

[♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ J.J. Virgin in the House. So happy to be in the house. This is what I have to do to hang out with you. I know, do you want to show me? I'm so excited. It's true. I'm so excited. So we spent some very intimate time together a few weeks ago And we were really talking about all the kind of the mixes out there, all the BSs out there,

all the kind of

the mixes out there, all the BS that's out there,

all the things that we've been told is true,

isn't true, and it's actually making us more and more

overweight, unhealthy, and feeling even worse about ourselves.

So today, girl, I wanna go really deep

on all the myths that we've been told.

Let's start shedding light on them.

And then I'd love to then talk about how we actually get to the truth And then what we do about the truth So then we'll go into the hacks part of it perfect. Let's do it all right So the first one I I get so many questions about this and it really holds women back because they feel badly about themselves Belly fat means that you're fat or you're lazy Tell me how much of this other bullshit and why that's holding us back You know know, this is actually why I decided I was going to focus. And I don't even want to say weight loss because we have been looking at this all wrong. The reality is, for the majority of women, the last thing we want to focus on is losing weight. We actually want to focus on holding on to and building muscle. And when you do that, your body will start to shed fat. But here's what happened early on, as I started to work in this, back when I was a personal trainer, like I think it was almost 40 years ago now. It's so crazy. I was like, what? Yes. One of the first personal trainers, there were three of us. And everyone was hiring us because they wanted to lose weight. And what I discovered were the people that I was working with were trying harder, were more sophisticated with what they should eat. They were like doing everything right, but nothing was happening. And then they were like, and again society would look at them going, well, they're just lying around the couch, right? And in fact, I was going to go do the biggest loser team version. And they hadn't even talked to one of the biggest loser doctors. And I remember sitting and talking to me, goes, people are overweight because they overeat and they're lazy. And I went, holy smokes, you're one of the people doing this show. This is just such a disservice to people. What if the fact that you can't lose weight is because you aren't healthy, that you actually have to get metabolically healthy to be able to lose fat and hold on to muscle. And one of the symptoms of being unhealthy is not being able to lose that weight. What if that was the case? What if it isn't that this whole idea that we lose weight, we get healthy? No, what if it is you actually get healthy and a byproduct is losing fat. And we really have to distinguish between weight and fat. Because if you're losing weight but you're not losing your waist, you're winking yourself worse and not better. And a lot of the practices that are out there will do just that. They'll hurt you. God damn. Okay, so how do we start to hear that message? I think that that really helps people right now that are emotionally stuck because they just they feel badly about themselves because there's that moment of hopelessness where you're like I feel like I've tried everything and I just feel worse about myself. And how do we then start to actually unwind that? Obviously the first thing is knowledge. I think that's super powerful. So what you said is really freaking strong. But now how do we actually use that to figure out how we start to, because in fact, what if it's our hormones? Yeah. Well, here's the thing. So I got obsessed with this. Now early on when I was working with clients, and I give them what I was taught in graduate school that it was calories in calories out. That was the next myth I was gonna bring up. Okay, well let's get this one because this one makes me insane and so in order to lose weight and again we weren't looking at body composition just wait and if you want to lose a lot of weight lose your muscle it's heavy right don't lose the fat it's fluffy and you'll look like a fluffier version, smaller version of yourself, not what we're looking for. And you'll be less healthy, not more healthy. But what happened was I was a 500 calorie deficit, you'd lose one pound a week. Thousand calorie deficit, two pounds a week. I love math. This is fantastic. I could outline a simple thing. I could figure out what someone's predicted metabolic rate was, you know, and then I could give them the right amount of exercise, the right amount of food, and they would lose one to two pounds a week. Easy peasy. Didn't work. And I thought, this is wild that I am doing this with someone and they're spending all this money and cheating. That was your assumption. Now. Wow. Thankfully, I took some women away for a week where I controlled everything. And I mean, we were all in the same house. There was no way for them to cheat. I knew how much they exercised. I monitored every meal. Some people lost weight. Some people didn't. And some people gained. And that's when I knew that our body's not a bank account. It's a chemistry lab. Now, what would be the things that would impact your body's ability to not be able to drop that fat? What would do that? And turns out, there's so many different things. This is why this calorie thing is so ridiculous. Like, we could eat the same things and have different responses based on our gut microbiome, based on our hormones, based on our thyroid function, based on stress. I did, I started meditating. I was telling Dr. Joe to spend to this. I started meditating and drop five pounds. I'm sitting on my butt with an I mask on and I go, you know, this is so funny. Like if there was ever a case of your body's not a bank account, I'm spending less calories. I'm sitting or lying down and I added an hour more of sitting or lying down into my day and I lose five pounds. Come on. So you know, stress is a huge one. Sleep is a huge one. How much muscle mass you have? What's your age? What are your genetics? What's going on with your sex hormones? This idea that you can start to get into perimenopause and things aren't going to go wacky. That's going to go totally crazy. But there's some ways you can work around it. What about your insulin? What about blood are leaped in. There's so many different things that impact this and so if someone is struggling,

the first thing you need to make sure is that you're looking at the right things and what I really want people to do is stop using a scale as a mean girlfriend. Then shaming them. You would never put on a blood pressure cuff. Get your blood pressure done and say, oh my gosh, I'm a bad person. My blood pressure is high today, right? Would we ever? No. No, but yet we step on the scale. We don't know what's actually going on there because all we're getting is the weight number. We don't know of that weight. How much is actually muscle? And how much is skeletal muscle? And how much is fat? And where is that fat? Because we might not like fat on our thighs,

but fat on your stomach, that deep visceral fat way worse.

And so we have to start looking into scale

as this biometric tool, right?

And we have to start looking at it and going,

okay, based on these numbers, what do I need to do?

Oh, I think I really need to focus on lifting heavy weights. That's my first priority. Oh, wow, I better check and see if something's going on with my thyroid, right? You know, so you start to prioritize what's going on and realizing that excess body fat is purely a symptom of something else not working. And most of the time, I'm going to make a broad statement. But rarely do I really see it because someone's sitting on the couch watching Netflix and eating, you know, garbage food all day long. I just don't see it. I mean, I've been doing this for 40 years. Wow. That is so powerful. And for myself, the stepping on the scale was, it was like, okay, this is my,

I kind of liken it to like where you check the weather, right? Is that you check the weather to see

if you need a sweater, if you need a t-shirt, the scale for me was actually an indication of how I was going to feel that day. And so if the weight went up, it meant that, oh, Lisa, you've messed up somehow and so now I would feel bad about myself.

If the scale went down, I'd be proud of myself

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