Hi, my name is John Kim and I'm a therapist who went through his own

rebirth. I share my feelings and revelations. I believe in casual or

clinical and with you instead of at you I come unrehearsed on

purpose because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated. Just as I finish

the episode titled Sexless Marriage, I realized that the person who

deemed me and requested I talk about that topic probably didn't want to know all the reasons why a marriage become sexless, but probably

wanted to know what to do about it. So here is Sexless Marriage Part 2.

If you didn't listen to Part 1, you might want to listen to that first.

That episode is more about how marriages become sexless.

And of course, this episode is going to be more about what to do about it.

So if you are in a sexless marriage here are my general steps and of course every

situation is different but I'm just going to do some kind of broad strokes blanket answer trying to throw the widest net that I can. Part, not part, step one.

Review your marriage and see

when it went south in the bedroom like when when did it start to become sexless right what what happened I think it's important to

Look at the black box after the crash and kind of review what went wrong, you know?

Now obviously your marriage wasn't sexless in the beginning or you probably wouldn't be married.

So what went wrong? What did something happen?

Was there a shift in dynamic? Did you guys, was it because you guys had children and got busy?

Like, what was the catalyst that, that was not my stomach, that was a Harley-Davidson, if you heard that,

outside of my window? What was the catalyst that made your marriage sexless?

Okay, now the second step is think about what you can do, what you can execute, because I think it's really easy and I think this has become a knee jerk for most of us in relationships to just point fingers and state what's wrong and what needs to be fixed, right?

Instead, take a breath, you don't need to go and announce that your marriage is sexless,

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