Self-Compassion as a High-Performance Tool: Why Beating Yourself Up Is Holding You Back | with host Emily Duncan

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Emily Duncan

Embodyradio, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement, Nutrition, Health, Bikinicompetitions, Education, Wonderwomanmentality, Npcbikini, Fitness

4.9 • 1K Ratings

🗓️ 4 September 2025

⏱️ 34 minutes

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Summary

In today’s episode, I’m diving into a topic that has changed both my personal life and my performance as a high-achieving woman: self-compassion as a tool for high performance.

I used to believe that being relentlessly hard on myself was the only way to succeed. But over time (and through conversations with brilliant minds like Dr. Karin Nordin), I’ve learned that self-compassion is not weakness. It’s not laziness. It’s one of the most powerful performance tools you can have in your arsenal.

Inside this episode, I break down:

Why self-criticism fails long-term and how it sabotages performance.
The three psychological components of self-compassion and how to actually use them.
The paradox of failure: why avoiding failure keeps you from success.
How pairing compassion with accountability accelerates growth.
My personal journaling framework that blends honesty, compassion, and radical accountability.

If you’ve ever thought “compassion is soft” or worried it would make you lazy, this episode will challenge everything you’ve believed about performance. By the end, you’ll see why self-compassion is a non-negotiable in your high-performance tool belt.

Download, subscribe, and share this episode with your ambitious besties, because the more we learn to fail forward with compassion, the further we’ll go.

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Transcript

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0:00.0	avoidance of failure in and of itself is avoidance of success. This is the failure paradox.
0:04.8	It's one of the great paradoxes of life. Welcome to Embody Radio, the premier podcast for ambitious
0:09.9	women ready to elevate their body, mind, and life to the next level. On this show, we've used
0:14.7	high performance, wellness and aesthetics, and self-mastery into a real world blueprint for personal
0:19.8	excellence. Each week, you'll get real,
0:22.0	grounded strategies and unfiltered conversations with high performers who walk the talk, no fluff,
0:26.8	and no fake hype. Because excellence isn't an accident. It's embodiment. And this is Embody Radio.
0:34.6	Girl, what's up? Welcome back to Embody Radio, where excellence isn't an accident. It's something you live. I'm your host, Emily Duncan. We have a fresh cherry alani cracked open on the show. Today, we're going to dive right in. Luna is sleeping so peacefully right across from me. I'm so distracted by the cute. But today, we are going to talk about one of my
0:55.7	favorite topics over the last few years and something that I've really been working on
1:00.7	cultivating in myself and in my clients. So we know this is a space for high performing
1:05.8	individuals, especially high performing women. And the thing that I want to talk about today is
1:10.2	the concept of self-compassion
1:12.2	and not just self-compassion by itself, but self-compassion as a tool for high-performance. By the
1:19.2	end of this episode, I want you to view self-compassion as one of your non-negotiable tools
1:24.9	in your high-performance tool belt. And if you are sitting here thinking,
1:28.4	but compassion, that's soft. That's not going to help me perform at a higher level than this
1:33.3	episode is exactly for you. And I cannot wait to dive into it with you here today. So as a high-performing
1:40.1	person, one of the kind of struggles of my earlier life, you know, as I was growing up, as I was in
1:46.6	my early 20s, is I would try to use self-criticism as fuel. I would try to use being really,
1:54.8	really hard on myself as a tool for performance to try and get me to do better, to motivate me to do better, and to not
2:02.6	fail. And surprise, surprise, that doesn't really work long term. And it especially doesn't
2:09.1	work long term for your continued success paired with a strong relationship with yourself.
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