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bookstores and online retail outlets. Thanks for listening. The beneficial qualities of learning to unwind. So, we, by the time we reach adult life, we develop a bulk of defenses to protect ourselves from uncomfortable effects, like emotions as it were, unpleasant memories and

antisocial impulses or impulses that would be poorly received from others.

And especially those with insecure attachment, the less secure our early attachment structures in our

family systems were the more likely we receive messages of shaming or rejection or abandonment for natural emotions, feelings such

as anger, assertiveness, fear, loneliness, needs for intimacy and connection and so forth.

So to the degree also that we grow up in restrictive oppressive cultures,

whether they be homophobic or racist cultures that also require or demand that people suppress natural impulses, feelings,

so that they can survive.

There is a, we develop a host of defenses to essentially keep out of our awareness these

unwanted feelings, or drives.

The more we repress our affects,

our feelings, our embodied states of being, the more we disconnect, the greater time we spend in sympathetic

nervous system activation, and that leads to hypertension, chronic stress and so forth.

So the more people are capable of actually feeling, being aware, cognizant of emotions,

the more likely they are to not only process their emotions but to then

stay in healthy states of the sympathetic of the parasympathetic nervous system the rest and digest

states of homeostasis where you well I'll talk a little bit about that in second

so what are these defenses that push or keep out of our awareness unpleasant emotions, feelings,

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