Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own

rebirth many years ago and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life

lessons and revelations. I believe in casual over clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated.

I know what you're thinking. All here we go I'm going to realign my

relationship which means make a list of all the things my partner needs to work on

nope that is not true the first step to realigning your relationship is to look inward.

I talk a lot about looking inward first and I really believe this imagine if in your relationship both people did that always

if that was their first step right it just lines up the tracks, positions yourselves to create safe spaces and

take ownership. And the problem is that most people don't look inward first I know very few that actually do

because it's difficult it's challenging I got to say you know because we have egos

and we don't want to do shit unless our partner does it first etc.

And of course we get very comfortable in our relationship.

There's a dynamic, there's a pattern, and so to actually look inward first

can go against the grain in so many ways right

it's like nails on a chalkboard can make you cringe and screech

but here's the thing

you have to set the example not for your partner, but for yourself, you know, and that's what this whole course is about it's about taking the initiative. It's about taking a setting the example. It's about you doing this for you, right, whether your partner

changes or not, right?

It's not about your partner.

Now that being said, I think you should present this audio course to your partner.

I mean you already have it you might as well let him or her listen to it too.

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