Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own

rebirth many years ago and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life

lessons and revelations. I believe in casual or clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose because

self-felt doesn't have to be so popular. This episode's called Rapid Fire, where I answer your questions as fast as I can.

So I'm going to try to answer as many as I can, because I have other podcast episodes where I just take one

or two questions and go deeper but you know sometimes we want to hear a lot of

questions and we want them answered fast. So I will try that on this episode. I also have

Ask Angry. That is where you ask me your question live. It's in quote unquote in person show and that's

for premium members. You could get that show at the

angry therapist.com forward slash premium it's only four bucks a month everything's commercial

free and you get a bonus episode each week.

Okay, so let's start with this question.

I know you say slow burn can be greater than lightning, this person means lightning in a

bottle, thoughts on first date sex. Okay, so my whole thing with the slow burn

being thing with the slow burn being greater than lightning in the bottle and by

greater I mean I mean it's usually healthier right I think the the slower the

burn the more thorough and more consistent as far as getting to know someone.

And of course that builds safer legs.

A lot of times, and this was me, my 20s and 30s just going by lightning which I get the

chemistry is powerful and there's dopamine and not all lightning is unhealthy

but if it's crazy lightning and the collision is, I mean,

where you just like feel dizzy, that can be dysfunction, that can be what I call the sticky. That can be a relationship dynamic that isn't rooted in healthy, but rather trauma in childhood and trauma bonds and all that right now this has nothing to do with

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