New Year, Same You? | Creating Change That Lasts [Q&A with Dr. Jennifer]

Conversations with Dr. Jennifer

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

Education, Sexuality, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.7 • 1K Ratings

🗓️ 2 February 2026

⏱️ 58 minutes

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Summary

Change is hard and it's not just because you lack willpower. Change is hard because it asks you to step into a version of yourself that feels unfamiliar—the one who’s still learning to speak honestly, love wholeheartedly, and tolerate the discomfort that comes from facing ourselves honestly. The unease you feel when you start to change isn’t a sign that something’s wrong. It’s a sign that your brain is doing exactly what it needs to do to grow. In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife uses questions submitted by listeners to drive a discussion about how we can create transformation in ourselves and in our relationships. Listen to the full episode to learn: Why most resolutions fail (and what actually creates lasting change) How to navigate the discomfort of growth without retreating to old patterns The power of self-confrontation Learn more about your upcoming events HERE: https://buytickets.at/jenniferfinlaysonfifephd

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0:00.0	What I'm helping people do is wake up to deeper truths about themselves, about their behavior
0:07.5	pattern, and the stories they've told themselves to keep those patterns alive and justified.
0:14.7	Change always comes when those stories get unjustified by reality.
0:19.4	And there's nothing like a partner to unjustify you.
0:30.6	Welcome to Conversations with Dr. Jennifer, a collection of interviews on the topics of
0:36.0	relationships, sexuality, spirituality, and more.
0:40.0	All featuring Dr. Finlayson Fife.
0:46.5	Welcome everybody to this Facebook Live about how to change.
0:51.6	And, you know, a lot of the questions that came in were related to things
0:57.0	other than getting stuck in repeating patterns but I'm going to still teach you some
1:04.0	concepts about what creates change and how it's related to evolving in our relationship to ourselves and in our relationship
1:15.5	to others, especially in marriage. Before I start in, I just want to tell you all about a few
1:21.9	things that are coming up. We posted a date night for February 14th in Alpine and it's sold out.
1:28.3	And so we are doing another date night on Tuesday, the 11th in Layton, Utah.
1:34.3	Christy posted that today. It's already about half sold out.
1:38.3	But if you're interested in coming to hear me teach for a couple of hours and you live in the Utah area.
1:45.8	Come see us on February 11th.
1:47.4	Christy will put a link there.
1:49.2	Also, on the 13th of February, I am teaching for people that are engaged or planning to get
1:55.6	married or who have just gotten married, that's also in Alpine.
1:59.1	No, maybe Provo.
2:00.3	Is that in Provo, Christy? That one is in
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