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I want to talk to you today about having really low expectations for what you achieve in a day and how that's a really good thing.

This is counterproductive or at least it sounds counterintuitive I should say.

We often think that if we start a day by thinking about just how much we want to achieve in that day and we focus on just how much we're going to get done today,

that somehow is going to lead us to massive productivity.

But the truth is that very often it leads to overwhelm and overwhelm leads us to short circuit and then do nothing.

The thing that I have been focused on recently which I can't get out of my head I'm sort of obsessed with this concept right now is the idea of having almost a pathetic minimum level of something that I have to do just to get into it.

I mean right now I'm trying to create a new program. It's taking time. It's quite daunting.

And if I think about it too much I know I won't do it because there's so much to be written there's so much to do.

And I just I know how easily I can get overwhelmed by this task and start procrastinating it and turning away from it.

Instead what I've been doing recently is creating really pathetic standards for what I want to get done for that project today.

With the knowledge I always know my safety net is regularity.

My safety net is consistency. I can actually get a pathetically small amount done on a task in a day if I am consistent with it.

If I'm not consistent with something I have to do an enormous amount on that. I mean I have a book club that I do for the women who have been on my retreat program.

And in this book club I have to read a book every let's say four weeks. If I leave it till the last weekend I'm now forced to read a book in a weekend or a book in a day which isn't always comfortable depending on the book and how interesting this book is.

If I read five pages a day or ten pages a day this book is easy. It doesn't matter how difficult the book is the book becomes easy because ten pages a day is not an awful lot for me to have to do.

But I think that consistency will save you. Regularity will save you putting something off will doom you to a truly depressing torment of an enormous workload an enormous amount to do.

So I advise you today is this think about what it is you're trying to get done and stop thinking about all of the stuff that everyone is sending you that they want you to get done.

I'm talking about the things that are important to you the things that you want to get done the things that you know will move your life forward if you get them done.

I want you today to focus on a pathetically small quota for what you're going to get done on that thing and stick to it no matter what do not let yourself off the hook make it's in fact make that amount of work that you're going to do on that project so small that it's almost embarrassing that you almost would you would be embarrassed to say out loud to someone because they think you are pathetic for setting yourself such a low target.

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