Matthew Asi here with Love Life. I am super excited about today's show because we have a great topic to discuss.

But first I have a question for you. If I told you there were five things you could say to get a man positively addicted to you,

would you try them? If the answer is yes, then be sure to listen until the end of today's show,

because I'm going to tell you how you can get your hands on those five magic phrases.

Now let's get to the episode.

I was having a thought recently about dating in general and how we're often accused of lacking chivalry these days.

People are accused of not putting as much effort into dates anymore.

And I was thinking about the way that dating works in big cities.

And this may not apply in quite, I think it does, but it doesn't quite apply to the same extent outside of big cities and places where there are lots and lots of people.

But I was thinking about the way people live life in a city. And generally speaking, people have a lot of options.

They have their circle of friends. They maybe go out on a Friday or Saturday night.

They've worked hard all week. So they look forward to that night when they're going to go out.

And I was thinking about how we have these expectations on dates like, oh, so and so should be taking me out on a Saturday night.

You know, if it's a first date, oh, he's he should be asking me out this Saturday night if he likes me.

Now, the problem with that is when I really thought about it in a realistic way, I thought, well, actually most of us don't want to spend our Friday or Saturday night with someone we don't know with a complete stranger.

It's almost like those nights are really precious to us with the amount that we work that when it comes to those evenings, we don't really want to say, well, I'm going to give up a whole evening with my friends to see this person.

I'm not even sure I really like yet. And don't we must not get into this entitled or arrogant place where we say, well, they should know they like me by now.

Because if someone's barely met us or they met us for five minutes or just met us online, that doesn't mean they know they like us. It means they have a level of curiosity about us right now that might lead to genuine attraction or a deeper attraction.

So my view is that when you're on a first date, you're not really entitled to someone's Friday or Saturday night.

Firstly, there are other nights of the week that you can go on a date with someone. And secondly, if you are going to go out with them on a Friday or Saturday night, there is a way to do this, which is really casual and actually shows you to be much more high value.

See, if you and a guy were trying to get together and you said to him, you know what, look, I'm out with my friends on Saturday night and I'm sure you're busy with your friends, but why don't we both meet up for a drink before we go out?

That's a really high value way to arrange a date because now what he sees is, ah, she's busy. She has friends. She's going out and there's low pressure because we're just going out for a drink before we go out with our respective friends.

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