Hi, my name is John Kim and I'm a therapist who went through his own

rebirth. I share my feelings and revelations. I believe in casual or

clinical and with you instead of at you I come unrehearsed on

purpose because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated. So if you notice that some of my podcast episodes are the same title has the same title as a video or an article,

I want you to know that I don't cut and paste that my

podcast will either go deeper or since I birdwalk the episode will have nothing to do with the title so you will be tricked

You know what I noticed? I had this revelation yesterday that I know that I'm getting older because now only is my voice changing

I don't know what's wrong with my voice today it's completely muted I noticed

that I like things that are just amusing.

Like they don't have to be extreme, they don't have to be laugh out loud like crazy.

They can just be amusing.

So for example, I've been watching Jerry Seinfeld show comedians in cars with

coffee or comedians having coffee something like that in cars.

And I've been binge watching it, and you know, it's not hysterical.

It's just kind of pleasant and amusing.

And I thought, oh, this is what getting older looks like.

All right let's talk about

Engagement.

So I had a client once and she was depressed and we couldn't figure out why because she had a caring husband and a solid job and a great friends and a loyal dog and her life was good there was no reason for

for her to be depressed and as we started to peel layers we realized that she

wasn't engaging in life.

And I think that sometimes because of our daily routines,

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