Hi, my name is John Kim and I'm a therapist who went through his own

rebirth. I share my feelings and revelations. I believe in casual or

clinical and with you instead of at you I come unrehearsed on

purpose because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated.

I want to start with a quote by Jack Cornfield.

He says, when we are lost in desire, our heart closes.

Now, I have struggled with desire. I think we all have or we all do. So there's

healthy desire and there's unhealthy desire and we know what is healthy for us and we know what is

healthy right I think that desire generally is a good thing.

We as humans everyone has desire.

If we didn't have desire we wouldn't make babies right?

Like we we naturally flow with desire and that is meant and that is good.

And we should honor that and we should fulfill our desires. And it doesn't matter if it's a donut or you are desiring

to build something amazing or you're desiring,

I don't know, a connection, a better connection to your body but desire can also become dangerous

when the desire gets out of control and I think this is where unhealthy kicks in and so the desire to so let's take the

donut for for an example because that is one of my weaknesses.

If you desire a donut that is okay and that is good,

that is not a bad thing.

As you start to feed your desire, so after one donut, say you decide to continue to feed that

desire and you now have six donuts or 12 donuts, well eventually you will get sick, right? So that's a very simple example of how a normal natural desire if fed continuously, because I don't think desire has like a gauge you know I think well

it has a gauge I don't think it has it's like a it's like a baby where or it's like a, it's like a baby where, or it's like a dog, you know, dogs don't know when to stop eating.

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