Hi, my name is John Kim and I'm a therapist who went through his own

rebirth. I share my feelings and revelations. I believe in casual or

clinical and with you instead of at you I come unrehearsed on

purpose because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated.

All right so last time I did a podcast, I was in the bedroom of the house that my girlfriend

grew up in in Syracuse horizontal on the floor

snot running down my nose tears in my eyes with a nasally voice because of the horrible allergies. Today I'm going to be

podcasting from a rooftop in New York City where you will probably hear weird noises and people getting mugged and sirens and all of that.

And I'm doing this on purpose because I love podcasting in different locations. I just bring my little $9

dollar microphone and create a dialogue. Today I'm going to talk about this idea of living like you're already there. Now I'm not saying to pretend. I'm not saying to

cross your fingers and just hope and wish things happened to you that's not what I'm saying

I'm talking about the mindset you know and for me I spent a lot of my well okay most of my 20s and 30s trying to go somewhere trying to build something

What I call chasing being in a chasing state and I didn't allow myself to be happy until I had the things, right?

And the things that I wanted were very

based on the external right so they were based on deals and money and

and cars and you know things outside of self and I define those things as happy and I

didn't allow myself to be happy unless I had those things and of course when

you live that way you are powerless you're you have no sense of self or a

stance instead you spend your life chasing your tail and then if those things

ever come you never allow yourself to be happy, right?

And then a lot of times, a lot of people today

and the people that have coached, they're happy is,

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