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We'd love to have you. We have Coach Laura back again this week to talk about is sex addiction just another excuse in my church they're trying to

move away from the word sex addiction and call it a habit because they think that

maybe people are using the word addiction as an excuse that that's why they do it and they can't stop.

What are your thoughts about this, Laura? I mean, I know a lot of women just think,

ugh, why can't they just stop?

I really love talking about this because I feel like once a partner

truly understands this that they're really empowered to not accept it as an

excuse. Often I hear a partner ask,

is it really an addiction or is it just an excuse?

While this seems like a logical question,

it's really not an either or situation.

Because the question implies that either a sex addiction is real or people are engaged

in hurtful sexual behaviors outside their primary relationships and are using addiction

as an excuse for that.

But in my opinion, both of these can be true.

The first thing I want to make clear right away though is that if your partner is using this as an

excuse it's not a good excuse. It's a reason it might explain why he engages in

the behavior that he engages in but it's not an excuse.

So sex addiction, if you think about it, it no more justifies the addicts' behavior than

alcoholism justifies crashing your vehicle head on into another vehicle and

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