We wanted to talk today about what happens when someone does something early on in a relationship.

And in fact, I think we can actually widen this to lots of different moments in a relationship,

even if you've been in that

relationship for some time. But when someone does something that breaks your trust,

that makes you feel unsafe emotionally, makes you feel like if you continue with this relationship,

you could get really hurt, and therefore throws you into with this relationship, you could get really hurt.

And therefore throws you into the dilemma,

especially if that person would like to keep going,

of whether it's wise to keep going or not.

And the example that we were talking about,

because this came up for us recently in one of our

coaching sessions, is when someone has lied about how their last relationship ended, they told

you one thing, but then one day they come clean and tell you the reality, which is that they

cheated in that relationship. And that's why it ended.

Oof.

Oof. Yeah. Oof. No.

No, that's a pretty, I would find that a very unsettling truth to uncover.

And I suppose the fact that someone didn't tell you in the beginning is one of the hard parts, right?

It's one of those things where if you have always had a very black and white view on cheating, it's something

that would make you feel uncomfortable anyway if somebody even sort of came clean about it in the

beginning and was open about the fact that they had done that and regretted it. I think, as you say,

especially if it was said afterwards, that would be, if it was

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