4 Step Approach To Stop Obsessing Over Someone
Love Life With Matthew Hussey
Matthew Hussey
4.7 • 3.1K Ratings
🗓️ 11 May 2026
⏱️ 18 minutes
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Summary
Have you ever stared at a text message for 20 minutes trying to decode it and then another 20 minutes trying to figure out how to respond to it? In this week’s episode, I dive into the obsession and overthinking that can happen in dating, when every text, silence, and tiny interaction suddenly feels loaded with meaning. (And yes, I act out the entire internal meltdown we’ve all had while trying to craft the “perfect” reply.)
More importantly, I share a powerful framework I teach to my coaching clients called the “CALM Method,” designed to help you stop spiraling and regain emotional control. We explore the idea of the “bodyguard," which is the protective part of you formed from past experiences that tries to keep you safe, but often also creates anxiety. I’ll walk you through practical steps to calm that fear, reconnect with yourself, and focus on real compatibility instead of fantasy.
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| 0:00.0 | David, David, the girl I'm seeing. She's sitting over there right now. |
| 0:15.0 | How are you contacting me? |
| 0:16.0 | We're making a new video, remember? |
| 0:17.0 | Right, right. |
| 0:18.0 | Look, she's working right across from me. |
| 0:20.0 | She hasn't texted me back since our last date. |
| 0:22.4 | If I go over there, I don't want there to be this weird tension like I know she hasn't |
| 0:25.7 | texted me back, which I obviously do. Matt, you live together. That's Audrey. It's your wife. Yes, I know. That's what makes it so awkward. If she doesn't end up being into me, we're going to have to run into each other every day. |
| 0:36.7 | I'm pretty sure she likes me. |
| 0:38.1 | We had a child together. |
| 0:39.3 | And she sends me all these signals. |
| 0:41.3 | Last week she asked me to regrow out the roof. |
| 0:43.3 | And she watches all of my Instagram stories. |
| 0:45.3 | Look, dude, it's all good. Like, you kind of got this locked in. |
| 0:50.3 | Just play it cool. |
| 0:51.3 | I can't, Dave. This woman is the light that filters through the clouds of my tumultuous mind. |
| 0:59.1 | Are you like me anxiously obsessing over someone right now? |
| 1:04.6 | Or stay tuned because I promise you by the end of this video, both you and I will have |
| 1:09.5 | exhaled, relaxed our shoulders and regained a sense of calm. |
| 1:14.3 | Just watch. |
| 1:16.0 | I remember these feelings well. |
| 1:18.4 | I'm having them right now. |
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