You're listening to the Impact Theory Podcast, your source of empowering ideas and actionable techniques from the world's highest achievers. Join host Tom Billiou, serial entrepreneur and co-founder of the billion dollar brand Quest Nutrition, on a journey to unlock your potential and realize your vision of success. Welcome to Impact Theory. Indeed, what is up everybody? Welcome to another episode of Relationship Theory coming to you live from the house today. It is December 27th. And we're still all in full Christmasy mode. Get after it. There you go. All right, so today we are gonna be offset, we're here in our living room.

We've got family here, live and around us. So if there's a little bit of extra noise, yeah, they're all like church-wise right about now, trying to be quiet. So yeah, we're gonna dive in, and I think you have a question for us to kick out. I hope you guys had an amazing holiday, by the way. Whatever it is that you celebrate, we hope that you had an amazing time with friends and loved ones and now are ready to dive in to

relationship theory.

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Still. Whatever it is, you celebrate, we hope that you had an amazing time with friends and loved ones and Now are ready to dive in to relationship theory. Yeah, let's do this all right So I want to give results from last week nice the would you rather? Yeah, so last week and I guess thumbs up make sure that we you guys can hear us okay? We didn't put mics on yeah, but we figured it was all right. So thumbs up if you can hear us About We heard about the World Carnival Championship, is that what you're saying? You're listening. Yeah, you're a push. So this is, would you rather from last week? Okay, the question was, would you rather have your trust broken by your partner but the aftermath makes your relationship stronger or never have trust issues at all? So that was last week and the results are in it was actually 50-50 again. What is with that? But Michelle, Shady old lady knew that I'd be curious on like the men and the women ratio and she actually says it's even camp. Wow. That's interesting. It's because her questions are brutal. Yeah, they are. So it's like I hate both. Yeah, they're great questions. Amazing. Alright, so our first question of today, oh no, I need to, would you, would you bother? Sorry, this week's would you bother? Would you bother to take no time for self-care and your relationship suffers or take no time for self-care and your business suffers? So answer, drop in, the comments, baby. So obviously they're both hateful. Man, so I don't want to give a BS answer. The reality is it entirely depends on the spectrum of how much one suffers because there's no question that you suffered. Our relationship suffered in the early days of our business, but I wouldn't change that. And we didn't get to a breaking point, which is very important to note, but like laying that groundwork, we, everything that we've achieved still sits on that bedrock. And so to pretend like that wasn't necessary or that I regret it, which I absolutely do not regret it. I'm glad I listened to you.

I'm glad that you put your foot down,

but I'm also glad that you waited

like six and a half years to say enough is enough.

And I think that, yeah, I would do that again.

And so the truth is, there's a season for everything.

I wish I could remember the exact song lyrics,

but there's a season for everything,

and especially in the beginning when you're laying the groundwork or like when we first started quest, it would there was just so all in that I think you have to know when to let one suffer and when to let the other suffer. And I think that it is almost universal that one will be underserved. I won't go so far as to say suffer, but one is going to be underserved at all times And so it's like knowing how to walk that balance I literally was gonna say I'd rather the business suffer bigger absolutely right like we chose to Know like look this can affect our relationship and we have to work through it every day But and now I've just done though what I hate when other people do which is I didn't actually give an answer So would I would I rather I would rather the business suffer. Oh, yeah. No, no, I didn't. I said you need to know when to do each. So but I'm saying because it drives me nuts when people won't make a binary choice, I will say that gun to my head my priority is relationship over everything. Mine is too, but I think I would say rather relationships are for,

because I feel like I can control

how I act in those.

Imagine though it's a permanent state.

Oh yeah, then business for sure.

Sorry.

That is.

All right.

All right, so we've got to kick off question.

Guys, if you have any questions,

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