I Was a People-Pleaser for Years—Here's How I Set Boundaries & Took Back My Life | Terri Cole (Fan Fav)

Women of Impact

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Education, Society & Culture, Mental Health, Relationships, Health & Fitness

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🗓️ 17 March 2025

⏱️ 68 minutes

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Fan Favorite: This episode originally aired on March 23, 2022. What up, homies! It's your girl Lisa Bilyeu, and welcome back to the Women of Impact podcast. Today, we've got the fierce, boundary-crushing powerhouse Terri Cole in the house! Known as The Boundary Boss, Terri is here to help us stop being pushed around and to dive deep into the power of boundaries. Ladies, this episode is all about setting the boundaries that serve you to become the person you truly want to be. Terri's insights and steps in her book, Boundary Boss, are transformational and trust me, you are in for a game-changer today! We'll be digging into what the heck 'corrupt boundary data' is, how to assess where you might be a bit off with those boundaries, and what it really means to live with self-love so that you can attract the right kind of energy into your life. SHOWNOTES 00:00 Understanding Boundaries and Resentment 00:01:28 Welcome Terri Cole as The Boundary Boss 00:01:44 Exploring Corrupt Boundary Data 00:02:37 Boundary Blueprints Unpacked 00:03:14 Self-Assessing Your Boundaries 00:04:20 Myths Around Boundaries Debunked 00:05:17 Self-Abandonment Explained 00:06:04 High Functioning Codependency Unveiled 00:08:37 Recognizing Codependent Behaviors 00:10:00 Personal Revelations and Codependency 00:14:29 Navigating Guilt in Boundary Setting 00:19:05 Obligations and Choices in Family Dynamics 00:22:37 Boundary Setting as a Fluent Language 00:25:01 Over-Giving and Resentment 00:31:13 Introduction to Boundary Categories 00:34:05 Physical to Material Boundaries 00:36:18 Emotional Boundary Insights 00:40:17 Rigid Boundaries Explanation 00:46:36 Handling Narcissistic Boundaries 00:50:34 Staying in Your Lane with Boundaries 00:57:52 Understanding Indecision in Boundaries FOLLOW TERRI COLE: Website: https://terricole.com Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/terricole Boundary Quiz: https://boundaryquiz.com ********************************************************************** CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Audible: Sign up for a free 30-day trial at https://audible.com/WOI Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to https://www.vitalproteins.com and entering promo code WOI at check out. SKIMS: Check out the Fits Everybody Collection at https://www.skims.com/woi #skimspartner Kettle & Fire: Get 20% off at https://kettleandfire.com/lisa with code LISA Quince: Check out Quince: https://quince.com/woi Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa NPR Fresh Air: Tune into Fresh Air from NPR to hear some of the most insightful interviews anywhere—wherever you get your podcasts. ********************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS: apple.co/womenofimpact ********************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:54.4	I don't even know about my boundaries. I don't know vaunta.com. I don't even know about my boundaries.
0:56.1	I don't know if they're good.
0:57.1	I don't know if they're bad.
0:58.1	I don't know if they're too strict.
0:59.6	I don't know if they're too loose.
1:00.9	So part of it is you have to think about where are you resentful?
1:05.6	Because if you put everyone above yourself, if you are last on your own list, if you have a terribly negative
1:12.0	inner voice that's so mean and caustic to you, then you are literally setting the bar in your
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