meta_pixel
Tapesearch Logo
Log in
Lights On with Carl Lentz

I Love My Husband But I Am Not Attracted To Him

Lights On with Carl Lentz

B-Side

Society & Culture, Christianity, Religion & Spirituality

4.8797 Ratings

🗓️ 4 March 2026

⏱️ 45 minutes

🧾️ Download transcript

Summary

Get our new book Overcoming Infidelity: 10 Conversations to Help Heal the Hurt here:


- Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1668230496


- Barnes and Noble: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/overcoming-infidelity-carl-lentz/1149403061?ean=9781668230510


- Simon and Schuster: https://www.simonandschuster.com.au/books/Overcoming-Infidelity/Carl-Lentz/9781668230510


---


Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com

---

A listener writes in about something she has never fully admitted before. She

was never physically attracted to her husband. She chose him because he loved

Jesus and she believed he would be a good husband and father. They have never

had a good sex life. And now, after his infidelity, the attraction is completely

gone and she does not know where to go from here.

Carl and Laura break down the two pillars that build genuine sexual attraction,

security and mystery, and explain exactly how infidelity destroys both. Carl

shares why your wife's nervous system is a direct mirror of your tone and

consistency over time. Laura walks through her four-question matrix for

identifying exactly why attraction is gone, because the reason determines the

path. From the difference between companionate love and erotic love, to why

admiration is the most underrated on-ramp to desire, this episode delivers the

kind of counsel most people cannot find anywhere else.

This episode will challenge anyone who has ever confused being a good person

with being a desirable partner.

---

Follow Carl at: https://www.instagram.com/carllentz/

Follow Laura at: https://www.instagram.com/lauralentz/

----

Supported by God Behind Bars - https://godbehindbars.com

Supported by Plana - https://plana.org/

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcript

Click on a timestamp to play from that location

0:00.0

This podcast is sponsored by Better Help. March includes International Women's Day. It's a moment to celebrate the strength of women and all that they carry at work, in relationships, in families, and the many roles they hold every single day. Between caring for others and all the unseen roles that they hold that often we don't know about, the mental

0:21.7

health and well-being of very important people can get overlooked. Therapy is such a powerful way

0:27.4

to offer somebody a space to take care of themselves in the way they deserve. If you take even a

0:32.7

moment today, just to consider the role a woman has had in your life that has made you better and left a lasting impact on you, it makes you instantly grateful.

0:42.4

I'm blessed to wake up every day and see my wife, Laura, who is easily the most important person to me and what she carries as a woman in this world is inspiring to me.

0:52.1

And if there's a woman you love in your life that is yet to experience the

0:55.1

balance, the support, the help that therapy can provide, this is a great time to point them to

1:00.2

BetterHelp. BetterHelp has over 30,000 therapists, and it remains the world's largest online

1:06.1

therapy platform, and they have served over 6 million people globally. And with an average rating of 4.9 out of 5,

1:13.4

there are over 1.7 million people who can agree that BetterHelp is a perfect resource to help

1:19.8

people find support. One thing is for certain, your mental health matters. So find support

1:26.5

and you can even feel lighter through therapy.

1:29.3

So sign up and get 10% off at betterhelp.com slash lights on. That's BetterHelp, H-E-L-P-L-P-L-L-P-L-L-E-L-L-E. Explore what options might work for you today. If your home feels better,

1:49.0

you feel better. And the atmosphere impacts everything from your mental health to your desire to

1:54.3

even be hospitable. So Wayfair can help you upgrade your space with quality pieces that work within your

2:00.0

budget. Plus,

2:01.3

you can enjoy fast shipping and easy assembly options. My wife, Laura, she is big on what our home

2:07.2

feels like and we get to reap the benefits of it. And Wayfair helps you find that unique style and

2:12.4

aesthetic from mid-century modern to farmhouse or contemporary, whatever you need. wayfair can help you find it and get

2:19.3

clear on your options and then even match it to your budget so probably my favorite thing about

2:23.7

wayfair is honestly the assembly options i don't want to assemble furniture ever no thank you and if

2:31.0

you're like me and there are many of us out there, Wayfair keeps people like us in

...

Please login to see the full transcript.

Disclaimer: The podcast and artwork embedded on this page are from B-Side, and are the property of its owner and not affiliated with or endorsed by Tapesearch.

Generated transcripts are the property of B-Side and are distributed freely under the Fair Use doctrine. Transcripts generated by Tapesearch are not guaranteed to be accurate.

Copyright © Tapesearch 2026.