Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own

rebirth many years ago and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life

lessons and revelations. I believe in casual over clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-health doesn't have to be so complicated.

Before today's episode I have a small ask.

John you don't front load and ask it's such a turnoff.

Okay first I just want to say then I really thank you for listening to my podcast.

It has given me a sense of purpose, which has been the greatest gift this world has given me since my rebirth. So thank you for that

sincerely. Here's my ask. So Apple did an update and it has affected the subscribership significantly. So my

ask is if you have time please resubscribe to the Angotherapist podcast because you might have

been unsubscribed and also if you have a minute if you can rate and review that would mean the world.

Thank you so much for listening and

enjoy today's episode.

How to show up not only creating space but how to express yourself in a healthy way. So I want to start by sharing something. I, most of my life, have not shown up in a healthy way. I, most of my life have expressed myself in a very grabby, manipulative, and I would even say without even knowing it

meaning I wasn't intentionally trying to hijack the conversation or a steamroll or control or manipulate. I was doing it

without even being aware of it and I think this is really important you know because a lot of times

we don't go into fights intentionally trying to hurt each other I mean most of the

times we don't.

The pain comes from the byproduct of not being aware.

And so most of my life, 20s and 30s, going into fights where I mean I would be very calm but I would like a lawyer

tried to convince the other person that she was wrong or that this is a better way or I would not take

ownership right I would deflect and it would all be logic driven. It wouldn't be coming

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