How to Recognize a Love Bomber Before You Get Hurt | Rewind

Love Life With Matthew Hussey

Matthew Hussey

Education, 971900, Self-improvement, Society & Culture, Relationships

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🗓️ 2 January 2026

⏱️ 21 minutes

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Summary

When we meet someone we feel excited about, “love bombing” can feel like everything we’ve ever wanted. Someone we’re attracted to showering us with intensity and attention who is also happy to introduce us to their close friends and family . . . let’s be honest, it feels really good. Life suddenly transforms into our very own romantic movie. Sure, the pace of it might feel a little rushed and intense . . . but isn’t that what happens when you meet “the One”?

But then, like clockwork, it happens. The texts stop coming in fast like they used to and we feel them pulling away until eventually, as quickly as they came, they’re gone. The harsh contrast between the avalanche of attention they gave us in the beginning and the cold one-line texts we’re now receiving can leave us in a state of withdrawal, wondering whether any of it was even real.

This might sound familiar to you . . . it’s certainly a story I’ve heard over and over. But why do people do this? This episode will help you automatically sift out the love bombers so you can just focus on enjoying the process of dating people who share a healthy mindset and an open mind to finding a real relationship.

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0:00.0	A love bomb or a love bomber is someone who comes into your life and immediately has an incredible
0:11.8	intensity about them.
0:15.4	They shower you with praise and attention and affection and maybe even something that looks like love. They want your time,
0:26.6	your energy. Maybe they do things very quickly like introduce you to family. Maybe they immediately
0:34.9	give up their whole week. They want to see you every single day. They want to know
0:40.6	where you are all the time because they miss you. It's someone who is very grandiose in the
0:47.8	beginning. You may even feel in the beginning with this person like the pace of it makes you slightly uncomfortable.
0:57.6	And the reason it's called love bombing is because someone comes in and drops this bomb,
1:05.0	but then they disappear just as quickly when they're done.
1:08.3	And that's what so many people experience is the pain of feeling like
1:12.6	they had something that was so intense and felt like it was so important. And it really felt like
1:18.5	it was going somewhere very quickly. And then as quickly as that person came in and showered you
1:23.8	with that affection, they disappear. So what do you think about this, Steve?
1:31.2	What do you think that people need to hear about this who have either suffered from it or
1:37.3	don't want to fall prey to it? I think the first thing for me, and this is a topic that's always
1:43.5	strange for me, because I don't think I understand the psychology of guys who do this.
1:49.3	Is it ego?
1:50.6	Why would a guy shower someone with tons of attention and pronouncements of love and lavish them with attention if they didn't want to actually be with them.
2:02.6	Well, I think there's a, there's a generous interpretation of this and also a less
2:08.4	generous interpretation. And I think that they're not always the same person. So if I were to
2:12.7	take the most egregious kind of love bomber, it would be someone on the spectrum of narcissism somewhere
2:21.8	who really enjoys someone falling in love with them. They want to come in and make you fall in
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