There is something counterintuitive you can do to meet someone in 2026, and that is,

to stop focusing so much on meeting someone in 2026. But that is so hard, Matthew, it is what I want the most.

How exactly would I even do that? And how will that even help?

I'm going to show you in this video. And the answers are, well, unexpected. The economist John Kaye put

forward the counterintuitive theory of obliquity. The idea that our most valuable goals in life,

like finding love or building a thriving social life,

are rarely achieved by pursuing them directly.

They are actually best reached obliquely, meaning indirectly.

When we pursue love directly, for example, by saying,

I want to meet the love of my life this month,

or I want this person back, it leads to narrow thinking, short-termism, and unintended bad consequences.

But indirect pursuit, focusing on the deeper activities, values, and systems that create those outcomes, is far more effective. It means instead of

trying to find love by chasing it and obsessing over the outcome in a way that actually makes us

more anxious, we need to create the conditions in our lives that attract love. And I am on a

mission this month to show you how to do that in 2026, starting with this video

where I am going to show you four unique ways you can start. And make sure you stick around for number

three and four because they are backed by 18 years of research I have done as a coach to hundreds of

thousands of people. And if you're new here, I'm Matthew Hussey. And what we do here goes beyond just dating.

It is about how we take control in each of the three major relationships in our life,

our relationship with others, with ourselves, and with life itself,

and how to use proven psychology to build deep confidence and find the love we deserve.

So let's dive right in.

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