I'm going to start things off with somebody who said that one of the things that where

confidence has held her back is thinking that her appearance is the reason why she can't seem to

succeed when dating. I kind of want to speak to that and speak to people who don't necessarily

feel like their looks is their asset.

And the thing that they, the sword they get to wield in order to get attention and get validation from people.

And I want to speak about that really because I think that's definitely a very common thing that kept coming up.

When we become anxious about our looks, and if you think about it,

insecurity can quickly morph into an anxiety, right?

The anxious thought is, I'm never going to find anyone because I'm not attractive enough physically.

And that anxiety can be a kind of constant over the course of our lives.

And it's always looking for a new thing to attach itself to.

And it's worth paying attention to the new things that it likes to find to attach itself to, because they, there will have been something in your life that you used to worry about physically that you've stopped worrying about at some stage.

And it's not because that thing went away,

it's because your anxiety just latched onto a new thing and said, that thing doesn't matter anymore,

but this one, this is the reason you're never going to find love. And I can literally track

through my life different things, different parts of my body, my face, my hair, my height,

and all different things that that anxiety latched itself onto at different times. I remember,

never told this story. I remember being in London with my dad one day.

And I remember seeing a doctor.

And I can't remember why I was seeing the doctor.

The reason I was seeing the doctor was something like legitimate.

But my dad was with me.

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