Hey there, welcome to this edition of the Shalene Show.

Happy Friday!

It's Car Smart Friday, let's go for ride.

Welcome to the Shalene Show.

Shalene is a New York Times bestselling author, celebrity fitness trainer, and obsessed

with helping you live your dream life.

So we thought we would start by sharing some things we've experienced in our own marriage,

things that don't help you to grow together.

In fact, they can often create a wedge in couples and, you know, left unchecked, they

can be pretty damaging.

The first one, the first negative I can think of is lack of empathy, just not taking a moment

to imagine what your partner is feeling from their perspective.

And I recently had a conversation with a girlfriend of mine and she was upset as she

should have been with her husband for not responding the way she needed him to respond.

And I just, you know, because it's a kind of girlfriend that can have a very serious conversation

with and be honest, I said, you know, as an outsider, I can imagine what he's feeling

and how in his own head he is right now.

So I'm just suggesting that instead of thinking about what you needed to imagine what he's

feeling and, you know, that was helpful to her, like you're just, you're so different

couples are that sometimes what it is you want from them, you have to see things from

their perspective and not just their perspective, but their history.

Like, how did they grow up and how might this be triggering and why are they responding

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