What up guys, Lisa Biddy here. And just the other day, I was thinking about all the pressures that

are put on us women like to get married, to have kids, to have their amazing career, all at the same freaking time. And on top of that, it's all you've got to do it before it's quite and quite too late and you get quite and go, too old. And so it's really sad and absolutely no surprise, let's face it, that many of us women are now succumbing to the massive pressures and just settling.

We end up giving up on finding that right person or that amazing job that you dreamt about when you were a kid and that you were passionate about. And yes, maybe you make everyone else happy like your mom or your dad or your friends or your school teacher, but you end up living everyone else's life and you are left feeling like an empty shell of that amazing woman that you either used to be or the woman that you know that you can be. So on this episode of Women of Impact Guys I wanted to bring on someone who actually was able to stand her ground despite the insane pressures. She broke the mold of what everyone expected her to do and she got back up when she fell to her knees. Yes, this inspiring woman has it all. She has the career, the marriage and the family without actually having to settle. But of course, there's a catch. She didn't do it until she was freaking 48 years old, when most people just said that it was too late for her and that she was too old to be able to do it. Yep, today's guess is the incredible, journalist, amazing talk show host, and author Tamron Hall, now my home is. You know I believe to my freaking core, the age is nothing better than number, and you should never, ever, let us stop you from making big audacious goals and dreams and working towards them coming true. And Tamron couldn't be a better freaking role model to learn from. And so in this episode we dig into how to handle people that are calling you difficult, how to maintain your confidence and get back up even when you've been fired on public television. Most of us haven't been in that position. We know what it's like to leave a bad relationship or feel like you just passed your prime. Now we also talk about why you need to bear on yourself if you want to actually change your life and she explains how to do that. Termin also gives us a genius way of thinking about everything in your life as preparation. And then we go into how to stay open to a man coming into your life or a partner, even when you think it's too late for you. And guys, oh my god, there's so much more with this amazing woman. Now let me just tell you by the end of this episode, you will know exactly what you need to do no matter what age you are to take your power back in life. Not to let challenges knock you down or knock your confidence down at any freaking age and do what you need to do to make your dreams a reality without settling or succumbing to anyone else's precious in life. Alright guys let's just dive in because I'm freaking obsessed with this woman. I've been on her show and I'm so excited for her to finally be online. I'm Lisa Bilyu and this is Women of Impact. So many of us women feel the pressure to get married. Have kids, have the career before it's let's say too late. But time when you didn't, you got married, had a kid, and started your own talk show all at the age of 48 years old. So how on earth did you make sure not to settle and not give up unless then you knew you deserved? It was not by design. You know, it wasn't, it wasn't by design. The things that happened at age 48, my son, my talk show, were all events that I didn't plan, but life prepared me for them. I lost my dream job as co-host of this National Morning Show that really came to me as a great surprise. I was on air about to go live, and my then agent said, they're making a change, and they're taking this show off to replace it with another person in another show. And they've made you an offer to stay, but you will only have a title. We don't know what you'll do, we don't know where you will fall in, but for now you'll keep the title of host of this show. First of all, I thought I was gonna black out. I was just like, wait a minute, I've never not had a job. And then my mind immediately went to a passage that I read in a book when I was in my late teens and it said, who are you if there's no title beneath your name? If it's just your name, who are you? And that flashed in my mind and I wrote back all past. And it was a text, I could hear my agent's pause. And he's like, wait a minute, wait, wait, wait, wait.

I said, I'm good, I'll pass, tell them I'll pass.

I don't remember the rest of the show that hour.

I was on live and it's a blur.

And I went home and I went into my meditation prayer closet and I emerged completely clear

that I was going to determine my next steps.

So that wasn't a plan. It was something that happened. So many other women that I know have found the forward because there's no way to go back. I mean, I love the visual of your back is against the wall. If there's nothing behind you, boom, boom. I can only go full. I don't know though, because a lot of people crumble. Because here's the thing, I love one thing. Okay, I did, but you gotta get back up. You crumble, I crumble. I was in such pain and shock. I couldn't cry. Have you ever been so hurt that tears can't find their way out? Because you're so tight and you're so in shock. I was in such a... I couldn't cry. Like I could not cry because I could not believe that this was happening. You crumble. Who's gonna sweep you up? Even if a cookie falls to the ground, somebody's got to get it up. And so for me, I crumbled, but I had to, I was my backup plan. I wasn't married at the time. I don't have affluent parents. I, even though I'd been in TV for a very long time, I never made what I was due, like so many other women in the business. And so there was no backup plan. I was going to stay on the floor and have my landlord remove me from an apartment I could no longer pay for or figure it out. And so it really, I would love to tell you this glorious story of courage, but it really was a moment of when your back is against the wall and when you recognize that no title makes you. Nothing beneath my name made me. I made me. The universe made me. God made me. And the people who believed in me and nourished me made me. So this title was not going to break me. I was compelled to bet on myself. And I think that's the part that I tried to explain to other women. I truly felt an overwhelming from my toes to the top of my head. I was compelled to finally bet on myself, not bet on a company, Not better on a title, not bet on a job, not bet on a bank account, bet on myself. And that's, I think, what got me up. And the one of the things I think is knowing that you are your own hero. And I think- You are. Now that I believe your hero is traced to your origin story, right? And I grew up always knowing that I'm an underdog. My mom was an underdog, right? No one's going to come in and save us. We had to figure it out. My mother had to figure it out. So if I am my own hero, how did I figure it out in that moment? It really was my origin story. One of my first memories as a kid was going to visit my mom. She worked at a leather factory while trying to get her education. Then at night she decorate cakes at a grocery store. And I watched her become her own hero. No one was going to save her. And I listened, I had a great father. My stepdad came into our life. I think I was like, like I said, 11 years on, he's the dad that got me for me to have. So combined with his presence and his kindness and an amazing nature, I was able to look at two people

who were the heroes in their own stories.

And I don't think we always know why, right? That's the thing about life. It's not always like, okay, I'm going through this. And I remember that one time I aunt told me that story. And that's exactly what I'm experiencing today. And I'm gonna kick it in, or I remember that self-help book that I got in touch with. And I remember page six of my Angelus.

It doesn't happen like that.

But I do believe it's like your brain is a computer

and these things are... self-help book that I got in touch. And I remember page six of my Angelus,

it doesn't happen like that.

But I do believe it's like your brain is a computer

and these things are stored.

And if you walk in or go into a situation

with that desire to learn,

I believe it's doors in your hard drive.

And that's why I'm obsessed with the stuff

that's in the middle and I call it the mess.

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