How can I balance honoring my late husband’s memory while moving forward and making new memories?

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Dr. Julie Hanks

Self-improvement, Society & Culture, Education, Relationships, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.6 • 734 Ratings

🗓️ 7 December 2021

⏱️ 41 minutes

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In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Lisa Valentine Clark, actor, author, and host of The Lisa Show, and addresses the question “How can I find the balance between honoring a person I’ve lost while moving forward to create new memories?” In this episode, Lisa talks about the grief she has felt with losing her husband to ALS, and the challenge she has faced wanting to honor his memory while learning how to move on to make new memories. Sometimes when moving forward after a loss, there’s a ...

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0:00.0	Welcome to Ask Dr. Julie Hanks, a safe place for healing conversations that educate and empower you to
0:23.1	prioritize your dreams, revolutionize your family, and personalize your faith. I'm your host,
0:29.1	Dr. Julie Hanks, a psychotherapist and coach offering online courses and programs to help women
0:34.5	all over the world heal themselves and their relationships. Join me here every week as I
0:39.8	coach a listener through a specific challenge and empower them with tools to find healing.
0:45.3	I am thrilled to welcome Lisa Valentine Clark to the show today. Welcome, Lisa. Thank you for having me.
0:52.0	Lisa is an amazing actor and she's the host of the Lisa show on BYU Radio.
0:58.1	You've probably seen her on commercials.
1:00.1	She is a rock star.
1:01.6	So I'm so happy to have you today.
1:03.5	Oh, thank you very much.
1:04.7	So what is your question for me today?
1:06.9	So my question is a very deeply personal one, but one that I have benefited from just discussing it, but I'd love to get your perspective on when you are holding grief and when you're dealing with grief, how do you find that balance between honoring the person that you love and preserving their memories and moving forward with life and
1:30.4	creating new memories. Yeah. Yeah. So are you willing to share kind of? Yes. I've been very open.
1:36.8	Sorry. That's okay. You know, but I do feel like it's a universal thing that we've all,
1:42.1	we all deal with grief and I think that we kind of
1:44.5	stuff it down and think, well, this is very personal. And whether it's grief of children getting
1:50.4	older or life changes or grief of a parent or in my case, it's grief of a spouse. So I was married
1:59.3	for 25 years to the best human I've ever known, Christopher
2:04.0	Clark. And we had a really great partnership, marriage, and just the best memories and just a fun,
2:12.0	full life. And it wasn't perfect. I'm not trying to, you know, paint it as perfect, but it was
2:15.9	perfect for me. And unfortunately, he had ALS, which is a terminal disease. He faced it with humor and faith and just made me love him more. And he passed 18 months ago. And I since then have read many books on grief, and I have held grief,
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