How can I feel confident in my life as a single adult in the LDS church?

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Dr. Julie Hanks

Self-improvement, Society & Culture, Education, Relationships, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.6 • 734 Ratings

🗓️ 30 November 2021

⏱️ 26 minutes

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In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Lindsay and addresses the question “How can I feel confident in my life as a single adult in the LDS church?” Lindsay shares that she joined the church in hopes of creating a family she didn’t have growing up, and as that hasn’t happened yet, she’s blaming herself. During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Lindsay through her feelings of failure, of sadness and loneliness, and how her childhood experiences may be impacting how she feels about herself today...

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0:00.0	Welcome to Ask Dr. Julie Hanks, a safe place for healing conversations that educate and empower you to
0:23.2	prioritize your dreams, revolutionize your family, and personalize your fate. I'm your host,
0:29.2	Dr. Julie Hanks, a psychotherapist and coach offering online courses and programs to help women
0:34.5	all over the world heal themselves and their relationships.
0:38.3	Join me here every week as I coach a listener through a specific challenge and empower them with tools to find healing.
0:45.3	I'm thrilled to welcome Lindsay to the show today. Welcome.
0:49.1	Hi. Thanks for having me.
0:51.1	Oh, I'm glad you could be here. What is your question for me today?
0:55.0	Okay.
0:55.9	So I've kind of broken it down into three parts.
0:59.7	Do you want me to go through all of that first to start?
1:02.3	Okay.
1:02.5	Okay, so I recently turned 31 and I've just started attending a family award as a single adult.
1:10.2	And to be honest, it's been quite devastating.
1:14.6	I feel a lot like I have failed in part because I feel like that's like, I don't know, I've like
1:22.3	internalized what church culture has kind of said about, you know, the need to get married. And like,
1:28.8	you know, if you don't get married before you have to leave the singles board, like, you know,
1:32.6	kind of failed at that. And so I've only been to the family ward probably less than five times now,
1:39.8	like since I started going. But I find that like I'm incredibly conscious of the fact that I'm
1:45.0	single when I'm there. Like I feel almost like really embarrassed by it. And like going to church
1:50.7	makes me really sad. And I just and I'm like very lonely and I feel like I've experienced a lot
1:58.8	of self-loatling because of this. And like this is something that's kind of been going on for a couple of years now.
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