Hi, my name is John Kim and I'm a therapist who went through his own

rebirth. I share my feelings and revelations. I believe in casual or

clinical and with you instead of at you I come unrehearsed on

purpose because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated. So if you read me you know that I don't believe in the one. I believe in the one right now.

I think the concept of the one is romantic and I'm a hopeless romantic and I grew up watching romcom's and

Disney movies well not really Disney movies but romantic comedies and bought into the idea that there is one person

for you and when you find that one person you're supposed to be with forever that you

pour yourself into that person and that's what love looks like.

And yes, all that, like that gives me tingles and I love that idea.

But I think it's dangerous because if you think that there is only

one person for you you're going to believe that because that person is meant to be with you that that person should be perfect.

And this is where I think it gets dangerous because first no one is perfect, including it's not about being with someone who's

perfect it's about finding perfect in your partner not finding the perfect

partner so this is something that I have not finding the perfect partner.

So this is something that I have learned over the years in my own love experiences.

And I think also today a lot of people are out there trying to find their perfect person and you know

when we when we meet someone especially early on because of the fireworks or the chemistry or the attraction, whatever

you want to call it, the sparks.

It's really easy to think someone is perfect, right? It's really easy

when you're emotionally swept away and you're you know having amazing sex or you guys are having great

conversations and you're talking on the phone till two in the morning and you know

there's there's all these things that make the new exciting

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