Hi, my name is John Kim and I'm a therapist who went through his own

rebirth. I share my feelings and revelations. I believe in casual or

clinical and with you instead of at you I come unrehearsed on

purpose because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated. One of the most common

themes I see in clients who feel stuck and are grayed out and they're unhappy is they live in what was.

So it's less about getting something, whether it's a, you know,

finding love or building a business. All of that of course will bring us more joy, but I think that if you have

a pattern of living in what was, it really doesn't matter what you get today because that pattern, that

faulty thinking, that creating a loop will always leave you great out, you know?

It's really hard to expand and create a new life

if you're constantly being the old version of yourself.

So let me explain that. Many of us, and by many I mean most, I'm also included in this. We struggle with

defaulting to our own thought patterns,

our old thought patterns, our old behavior. We't we struggle with giving ourselves new experiences and by new

experiences I don't mean you know that they have to be some huge life-changing

thing of course, obviously, but they could just

be little micro-experiences that shift beliefs, usually start to dissolve old

limited false beliefs and create new and that new is what life looks like

that's what expanding looks like if you don't give yourself these new experiences,

then you default into living in what was. You live in the past. Now, time is going forward,

of course, and today is technically not yesterday, but your state,

your way of thinking, all of that shit stays in the past, and so you start to just exist, you know, and yes, good things can happen to you, but, and you may be happy

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