Hi, my name is John Kim and I'm a therapist who went through his own

rebirth. I share my feelings and revelations. I believe in casual or

clinical and with you instead of at you I come unrehearsed on

purpose because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated. All right I usually put

things into a shot glass but this one is going to be a little bit longer I'm sure

Because I don't know how I can sum up why relationships are hard in 10 or 15 minutes.

So grab some popcorn, this one is going to be in a wine glass.

All right, so this is a generalization, by way right the general blueprint this is not a

blanket statement and my intention or hope for this episode is that because you know we all know obviously why relationships are hard

but maybe I'll say something that shed some light or maybe you will be reminded.

And the reason I want that to happen is because

whether you're in a relationship or not,

I think many of us we leave when things get quote unquote hard right we leave

when there's pushback or resistance or when we get triggered, right?

Our natural knee jerk because of our stories

and the way we're wired and because of fear,

of a lot of things, we initially want to bounce.

And I want to let you know that all relationships are hard and that whether you're going through,

whether you're in a relationship or not, that if you're not alone and if you're not

when you get in one if you choose to and it gets difficult you will not be

alone so usually it starts with obviously meeting someone

you're attracted to this person and by attraction I think there's different forms of attraction of course

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