Hey guys, my name is John Kim. I'm a licensed therapist and life coach putting

self betterment into a shot class because let's face it who's got that much time

these days. I come unpolished, unrehearsed, on purpose.

If you're looking for more of a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place.

Let's talk about boundaries and how to draw them. For many, the word boundaries instantly

creates anxiety because when we think about boundaries, we think about pushback, we think about boundaries we think about pushback we think about

resistance we think about how people are going to respond to us drawing those

boundaries we think about you know all the shit we're going to get from our friends or

family right and also the guilt that we're going to feel and then you know turning

that inward and then you know am I a good friend or a bad person or you know not a good son

daughter all of that stuff so I want to step away from the word boundaries and kind of re-approach it because I think there's a way to

demystify that word which will give you less fear and hopefully more leverage and encouragement to actually execute.

And here's the thing, here's the biggest misconception about boundaries.

You don't have to draw them with Sharpie.

Now, listen listen you can and maybe you should with people who are

extremely toxic and that are going to be harmful to you almost instantly instantly, right? For example, an abusive X, right? If you've been in an abusive

relationship and the person is at your door, yes, unfortunately you do have to draw some boundaries very fast but I'm talking

about maybe friends that you have drifted from maybe people that you no longer

connect to maybe business partners, maybe exes, you know, maybe

bosses, maybe family members, siblings, you know, people that you generally know that you should probably, or relationships, you generally know that you should invest less in, less in.

So boundaries can be a very good way into changing the dynamic of a relationship.

And the way that you do it isn't necessarily by drawing hard lines, it's by doing it in a subtle way in a gradual way in a way that's

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