Hey guys, my name is John Kim. I'm a licensed therapist and life coach putting

self betterment into a shot class because let's face it who's got that much time

these days. I come unpolished, unrehearsed, on purpose.

If you're looking for more of a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place.

Dear angry, I need dating advice.

Guys, just call me John.

There's a guy I met online who I found to have a lot of qualities that I'm looking for and I enjoy his company as a friend.

I'm not physically attracted to him and don't feel a spark when I'm with him. I've gone

on five dates already and have had no desire whatsoever to kiss him.

He's also on a shire side so he hasn't made a move on,

he hasn't made a move to try, parentheses, thank God.

Am I still allowed to hang out with him as a friend? Will I ever develop a spark?

Do I decline his request for a sixth date? What do I do here?

I don't think he has any idea I'm feeling this way and probably thinks I'm into him

given I've already hung out with him numerous times. Please provide some advice.

All right. So I think five times is enough, five dates is enough to know if you're if

you're into someone. So here's here's what I think. Okay I think that one date isn't

enough and I know that many people they make a decision too fast

now if you meet someone and I mean some people like bring it they're like okay

within three seconds I know bullshit I mean some people like bring it they're like okay within three seconds I know bullshit I mean you know within three seconds of course if you're not a you know if you're repulsed by someone or if you're not if you're not attracted to that person at all, I get it, of course you know.

But if you are curious about someone, right?

There's no way that you're going to know within three to five seconds it takes a lot longer to hear

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