Welcome to the to love, honor, and vacuum podcast where we like to talk about how to make

marriage into a passionate adventure and not just a giant to-do list.

I am Sheila Ray Greguer from the to Love Honor and Vacuum Block and this week we are going to be talking about post-partum sex, how to regain intimacy even after you've had a baby and when recovery can take a little bit longer than usual.

You know, I have had three babies in my life and my recovery period was different for each one.

With Rebecca, who was my first that I gave birth to, I had a lot of tearing, I had a third degree tear,

I couldn't walk for about six to seven weeks, and it was just really difficult getting back into intimacy, just getting back into normal life.

With Christopher, who was our middle child who passed away from a heart defect, he was much smaller

when he was born.

I believe I actually walked home from the hospital. In fact, he was much smaller when he was born.

I believe I actually walked home from the hospital.

It was about four blocks from where we lived.

So I was doing really well after him,

and I didn't have any problems healing up postpartum at all.

And then Katie was my biggest child.

She was about a pound and a half bigger than Rebecca.

She was nine and a half pounds when she was born.

And yet my recovery with her was actually easier than with Rebecca and by the time I was six weeks post-partum with her

I really felt pretty much normal so all of that is to say that post-partum recovery is different.

It's different for each woman it. It's different for each woman.

It can even be different for each baby.

And so this idea that there's a one-size-fits-all

recovery period or recovery process is just not true.

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