Are you feeling stressed in your marriage? Well today on the to love honor and

vacuum podcast we're going to help you get to the bottom of that. I'm Sheila

Ray Gregwar from to love honor and vacuum.com the blog where we like to talk about how marriage

doesn't have to be a to-do list,

but instead can be a passionate adventure.

And yet, I know a lot of us

are not experiencing a lot of passion or a lot of adventure because life has just gotten really difficult.

And one of the things I've noticed is that when you are stressed, you tend to lash out at the person closest to you and

that tends to be your spouse so you get snippy at them you get grumpy and you

feel like you're always exhausted and so you feel like they are contributing to your workload and life is just rotten and then you start thinking to yourself look at all the marriage problems we have.

We're not communicating, we're not communicating,

we're not having sex, our marriage must be in the toilet.

But what if it's not a marriage problem?

Like, what if the stress that you're feeling

is more of a warning sign that life is just

gotten out of hand and you got to make some changes. I really think that a lot of

marriage problems if you look at the heart of them,

are more that people have gotten too busy, too overburdened,

not organized enough, whatever the problem might be.

But it's not something that's actually between the two of you it's

something about how you're doing life and if we can fix that life part then often

the marriage part gets fixed too I'm not talking about every marriage problem okay there's lots

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