What does it take to actually grow your marriage? To change your marriage for the better?

Well, I am Sheila from to Love, Honor, and Vacuum, the blog where we like to talk about how to make marriage into a passionate adventure, and not just a to-do list and on

this week's podcast we're going to be talking about exactly that.

How do you change a marriage?

I took a look this morning and I have written over 2,76 posts. That's a lot of

posts and in each of those posts you know I'm trying to give people tips and tricks to solve

different marriage problems. I usually think to myself, okay, what's a problem

people have and that's usually not difficult to figure out because of all the

emails I get and and how can I fix it or suggest things that might help.

But then I started to notice some really funny things.

For instance, I wrote a post a while ago called Four Things You Must Do if Your Husband

uses porn.

I still link to that post all the time.

It's just one of the pillar posts on the blog because porn is such a huge issue and so here if your husband uses porn these are four things you absolutely must do and then on that post I will get comments and I think there's hundreds on that post by this time

where a woman will tell her story which is legitimately really really sad about her husband

dealing with porn and then she'll say so what should I do and I'm always a little

bit confused by that question because isn't that what the post was for like to suggest

what you should do. So why is it that people will read

a post on like 10 things that you can do about this or four things you need to do if this is happening

and then they'll still say, so should I do and as I've seen

this crop up over and over again I have a theory I think many people are searching for a very

easy thing that will guarantee a change in their marriage.

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