Hey guys, my name is John Kim. I'm a licensed therapist and life coach putting self

betterment into a shot class because let's face it who's got that much time these

days. So red flags are, well not to everyone. Sometimes we allow our feelings and

emotions and being swept away by love, taint our glasses and we're not able to actually see the red flags or we minimize

and ignore hoping that someone is going to change hoping that it's going to work out

and then of course it doesn't because the red flags are

waving violently and you just you can't ignore them, right? So, red flags are fairly easy because you feel them, you know.

If you have any sort of non-negotiables,

you're going to be aware of the red flags, right?

For example, and this is a non-negotiable everyone should have, including you, and that is no physical

or emotional abuse, right? So if someone is punching you in the face or

assassinating your character, that's an obvious red flag and if that is a non-negotiable you, even though you may love this person, you will choose to leave the relationship at the minimum, express right draw that line and see if he or she

changes and if he or she doesn't then you leave the relationship because you believe that

you have value, right?

And if this is something that you weren't able to do before,

because sometimes, especially when we're younger,

we don't believe that we have value

and we lose ourselves and other people we find

our worth and our value in someone else or in relationships right and so if this has

happened to you before then hopefully by now you have

drawn that line and one of your non-negotiables is that you do not tolerate

any kind of physical or emotional abuse.

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