Hey guys, my name is John Kim. I'm a licensed therapist and life coach putting

self betterment into a shot class because let's face it who's got that much time

these days. I come unpolished, unrehearsed, on purpose.

If you're looking for more of a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place.

Number 36 of the 66 do's and don't in my new book I used to be a miserable fuck is

do- love hard. So I want to start off with a blog post slash letter I wrote. It's

titled a letter to My Future Girlfriend. And you may have read this,

wrote this a while ago. If you have, maybe this will be a nice refresher reminder review, and if you haven't, it will be brand new.

So a letter to my future girlfriend, you, you will not take away my boys my guys my friends my

motorcycle my alone time everything that brought me joy before I met you you will

not try to change my silliness in appropriateness or whatever makes me me that I like about myself, but may bring

out resistance in you.

You will not expect me to be a certain way because you've read my blogs.

You will not hold my words against me you will accept

me for who I am with all my defects and shortcomings you will understand that I am

in process and on my own journey just as you are on yours.

And although we are together, we will both have our own personal paths as well.

You will be responsible for your own happiness. I will not be your project.

I will be someone you choose to love and to do life with each day.

You will not keep me in the dark or in a box.

You will tell me how you feel even if it's not pretty.

You will not pick which friends you will and will not introduce me to.

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