Hey guys, my name is John Kim. I'm a licensed therapist and life coach putting

self betterment into a shot class because let's face it who's got that much time

these days. I come unpolished, unrehearsed, on purpose.

If you're looking for more of a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. The side door of my townhouse is wide open which is why you could hear the

helicopter and the faint sounds of conversations as people go on their little

night walks and traffic and probably horns and sirens and all of that that is Los Angeles but you could but there's also a breeze

coming in and this breeze is filling my soul I can close the door which will

make it better for you and your audio quality or I can leave the door open which will make it better for me because I love breezes and it calms me and by making it better for me it's

going to be better for you because I will be in a clear thinking happier state to deliver my episode today.

And I think this is a good metaphor for relationships.

I think that we, most of the time, especially in our early years, always focus on making it better

for someone else.

And when we do that, we don't realize that we are graying out our own self, our own needs, and so we

are not being a better partner because we're bringing to the table is a lukewarm version of us right and so we think that

Love means to self-sacrifice we think that love means to always make it better for the other person and that's actually not true.

I think true giving is when you fill your own cup, make it better for you first and then you will have more ability

Where that looks like to you right more hearts more presents more energy more everything to be present and be a better partner.

Speaking of relationships, if you did not get my audio course,

you should pick it up. I worked really hard on it if you enjoy my

podcast it's the same tone the same format except it there's actually a point. It's called how to bulletproof your relationship and it's

everything that I've learned in helping people over the last decade but

also might share my own love stories and I've collected

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