Hey guys, my name is John Kim. I'm a licensed therapist and life coach putting

self betterment into a shot class because let's face it who's got that much time

these days. I come unpolished, unrehearsed, on purpose.

If you're looking for more of a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. The single most important factor or element in any relationship is this.

Does the relationship allow you to connect to yourself or disconnect to yourself?

So it doesn't matter if we're talking about a friendship and intimate relationship, a partnership, a business partnership,

right, family, it really doesn't matter what kind of relationship, but if the relationship encourages you to disconnect with you, then that is a, it's definitely

a red flag. If the relationship encourages you to connect to you and

who you are supports your truth then that is a green light. It's rare and it's a good

relationship. A valuable relationship. You should hold on to that shit because that's a good thing

it's going to allow you to grow and evolve and be a better version of yourself. So here's

what I believe. We create relationships and those relationships become bigger than us and being in that relationship,

then depending on the relationship of course, will either help us grow and thrive

because we're not meant to do life alone, right? Or that relationship can create toxic,

can be dysfunctional toxicity.

Oh, God, I can't say that word. Can create dysfunction and stunt growth, right? I talk a lot about being having cracks in your

container that if the relationship is a container it could create cracks, right?

So ask yourself this because sometimes you know we read a lot of books a lot of

seminars and there's a lot of information and there's so many ways to look at

relationships and dissect and all these factors and elements and I like to simplify so if you've been

listening to me or reading my words you know that that's just a way that I I

have to bring it to street level or I just I don't understand it.

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