Ep 71 - 23 Things the Betrayed Partner Wants The Unfaithful Partner to Know After Affair(s) In Your Relationship And Marriage

Healing Broken Trust In Your Marriage After Infidelity

Brad and Morgan Robinson

Affairrecovery, Self-improvement, Sexuality, Infidelity, Family, Relationships, Marriage, Cheating, Health & Fitness, Trust, Education

4.6 • 737 Ratings

🗓️ 28 September 2022

⏱️ 33 minutes

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Summary

This episode is like a mini-letter to the unfaithful spouse. Our goal is to help you articulate many of the things you might be feeling but can't seem to put your finger on.

Also, you may have heard about our workshops and master class programs…

You may be listening to this wondering why would we join the Healing Broken Trust workshop and program?

“We’re already in counseling, or something else, and I mean Brad and Morgan cover everything they have to say in the podcast anyways, right?”

Well not quite.

First of all, if you’re in counseling right now you still need the workshop.

Individual counseling doesn’t solve marriage issues. And I bet your marriage counselor is working on the marriage and missing all the glaring affair recovery issues you haven’t yet dealt with.

In addition to that…we deal with so much more in the program that we’ve never covered on the podcast.

Such as:

When sharing emotions is not enough,
When being the healer doesn’t solve the trust issues,
Or when your spouse isn’t helping you heal at all,
When cutting off the affair partner isn’t simple or straightforward in your situation,
When you’ve decided to re-engage and work on the relationship but the underlying causes for the affair aren’t dealt with,
When you think you know why the affair happened and then you are given new information,
When you have blind spots and can’t see what you’re missing,
When you’re not used to sadness so you do everything not to experience it, but in the process, you loose all access to intimacy.
You’re super positive, sure of the solution, thinking everything is explainable, but do you really understand why your spouse decided to look outside the relationship for some need to be met? What need were they trying to meet?

These are just some of what we help couples deal with in our workshop and program.

So go to healingbrokentrust.com now and join us for the next workshop before it fills up.

Transcript

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0:00.0	Hi, guys, welcome to the Healing Broken Trust podcast. We're Brad and Morgan Robinson, and today we're talking about 23 things the betrayed partner wants the unfaithful partner to know. So here's why that's important, right? We're not mind readers. So let's just jump into it. The 23 things, the betrayed partner wants the unfaithful to know about them,
0:21.9	the relationship, what they're thinking. And what's the first one, Brad? Well, the first one is,
0:26.6	I can love you and hate you at the same time. And so when you get betrayed, you don't quit
0:31.9	loving the person right away, but you do lose trust in them right away. You do lose faith in them right away.
0:39.5	And you're afraid that it's going to happen again.
0:41.7	But you don't fall out of love immediately.
0:43.1	That takes time to fall out of love.
0:45.1	But you do lose faith right away.
0:46.5	You do lose trust right away.
0:52.2	So a person can love you and not have faith in you or even hate you at the same time.
0:54.9	And it's very confusing for the person who's been betrayed. And it's also very confusing for the person who's been unfaithful.
0:59.7	And it also reminds me of the back and forth feelings that happen a lot. Yeah. Well, it makes people
1:04.6	feel crazy. Right. People often come and, you know, come to me and say, I just feel crazy. I don't
1:08.8	understand these feelings. Right right and that's one of
1:10.8	the key things that people will say yes so i can love you and hate you at the same time but the second
1:15.9	one here is just because i haven't forgiven you yet doesn't mean i don't want to so just because
1:21.3	i haven't doesn't mean i don't want to and i'm amazed at the growing body of research that we're
1:26.2	unearthing i mean the quick fact for the, did you know that anger is actually one indicator that a person is forgiving or is beginning the process of forgiveness?
1:36.4	You know, you think anger just means I'm going to punish you and it's over, but like it's actually kind of hopeful because the person's starting or going through this forgiveness
1:44.2	process yeah yeah exactly morgan what you're bringing up we're going to look at that later
1:48.3	today that's exciting the third one yeah the third one is this is what the betrayed the injured
1:55.2	party wants the unfaithful to know don't give up on me the betrayed want the unfaithful to not give up on them.
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