EP 607: How to Make an Avoidant Love You (The Answer You’re Not Going to Like)

Let’s Get Vulnerable: Relationship and Dating Advice

Dr. Morgan Anderson

Mental Health, Relationships, Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Education

4.6 • 1.1K Ratings

🗓️ 8 December 2025

⏱️ 34 minutes

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Summary

If you’ve ever found yourself Googling “How do I get an avoidant to choose me?” or “How do I make an emotionally unavailable person love me?” This episode is your wake-up call. I’m giving you the truth no one online seems to want to say out loud. You cannot “make” anyone love you… but you can understand the deeper wounds that keep pulling you toward emotionally unavailable partners in the first place. This episode is packed with real talk, compassion, and the exact mindset shift you need if you’re tired of repeating the same painful relationship patterns.

Inside the Episode:

• Why you’re drawn to avoidant partners and how old patterns keep recreating the same pain.

• What’s happening in your nervous system when you chase emotional unavailability.

• How to show up securely with someone avoidant — matching energy, regulating yourself, and assessing their real capacity.

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If you know you’re ready to finally embody secure attachment, stop chasing emotional unavailability, and attract the emotionally available love you deserve, go apply now. Spots will fill quickly, and this offer will not return.

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Transcript

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Let's Get Vulnerable podcast. I'm your host, Dr. Morgan Anderson, psychologist, relationship coach, attachment theory expert, creator of the ESL relationship method, author of Love Magnet and Athletic Wear Connoisseur. My mission is to help you raise yourself worth, have great relationships, and step confidently into the next level of your life.
0:21.6	Each week, two episodes will air featuring expert advice, live coaching, and tips, showing
0:27.6	you exactly how to improve your life and attract a healthy relationship.
0:31.6	You deserve to feel empowered, secure, and love.
0:35.8	Buckle up and let's get vulnerable.
0:41.5	Welcome to the Let's Get Vulnerable podcast.
0:44.3	I'm your host, Dr. Morgan, and you are in for a treat with today's episode.
0:48.9	How to Make an Avoidant Love You, the answer you're not going to like. I see your search history. I know that this is one of
0:59.8	the most highly searched topics when it comes to relationships right now. And this is concerning.
1:07.6	We are going to get into the details of this. There are searches going viral right now
1:15.0	where you're typing things like, how do I make an avoidant commit to me? How do I get them to
1:22.5	stop pulling away? How do I get the avoidant person to love me? I am going to tell you the truth in
1:32.4	today's episode. Okay. We are going to get to the bottom of this. You cannot make anyone love you,
1:40.8	but you can understand why you keep choosing people who can't. We need to talk about this because
1:52.5	there is actually so much out there right now on the internet that really bothers me. There's all
1:59.2	these coaches and people popping up where they're trying to
2:03.8	give you the 10 text messages, the script or the three-step thing that you can do to get the
2:12.7	avoidant to love you. And that is not how this works. Okay. That is a false lie, people feeding into what they think
2:23.2	you want to hear. So yes, I'm pulling a little trick on you with this title of this episode,
2:30.0	but I needed to get your attention because if you are looking for stuff that is titled
2:35.8	How to Make the Avoidant Love Me, you really, really, really need to hear this episode,
2:40.6	okay? The truth is that trying to get somebody with avoid an attachment style to love you,
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