EP 608: 5 Signs You’re Dating Someone with Avoidant Attachment (And What To Do About It)
Let’s Get Vulnerable: Relationship and Dating Advice
Dr. Morgan Anderson
4.6 • 1.1K Ratings
🗓️ 10 December 2025
⏱️ 43 minutes
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Summary
If you’ve ever felt incredible chemistry with someone… only for them to suddenly pull away, go cold, or confuse the heck out of your nervous system, this episode is for you. We break down the real signs of avoidant attachment (without shame, without villainizing, and with so much nuance), so you can finally understand what’s happening in your relationships and what to do next. These are the strategies I wish someone had explained to me back when I was on the dating rollercoaster. Get ready for clarity, healing, and a powerful next step toward secure love.
Inside the episode:
- The 5 subtle but unmistakable signs of avoidant attachment (including the ones most people miss).
- Exactly what to do if you recognize these patterns in someone you’re dating without abandoning yourself or slipping into “pick-me” mode.
- How to slow the emotional pace, communicate securely, and finally break the anxious–avoidant cycle so you can attract healthy, reciprocal love.
If this episode hit home, if you feel that pull in your chest saying, “It’s time… I can’t repeat these patterns for another year,”, I want you to know this:
✨ You are not broken.
Your attachment system is simply waiting for the right support to finally feel safe.
And I’ve helped nearly a thousand people do exactly that.
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Let's Get Vulnerable podcast. I'm your host, Dr. Morgan Anderson, psychologist, relationship coach, attachment theory expert, creator of the ESL relationship method, author of Love Magnet and Athletic Wear Connoisseur. My mission is to help you raise yourself worth, have great relationships, and step confidently into the next level of your life. |
| 0:21.6 | Each week, two episodes will air featuring expert advice, live coaching, and tips, showing |
| 0:27.6 | you exactly how to improve your life and attract a healthy relationship. |
| 0:31.6 | You deserve to feel empowered, secure, and love. |
| 0:35.8 | Buckle up and let's get vulnerable. |
| 0:41.5 | Welcome to the Let's Get Vulnerable podcast. |
| 0:44.3 | I'm your host, Dr. Morgan, and today we're getting into five signs that you are dating |
| 0:50.3 | someone with avoidant attachment style. |
| 0:53.1 | This will be helpful for you whether you may think |
| 0:56.2 | that you are the person with avoidant attachment or maybe you are the person who's on the receiving |
| 1:01.9 | end and you really want to understand what is going on in your relationships. This episode will |
| 1:09.3 | really help you look at what's going on and understand it on a deeper |
| 1:13.9 | level. And of course, you know, I will give you what you can actually do with this information. |
| 1:21.8 | So it's not just understanding these signs. We're going to dive into, okay, so let's say you recognize these in your relationship, |
| 1:30.4 | what are your next steps? So this is exactly the kind of episode that I needed when I was on the |
| 1:37.5 | dating roller coaster and not understanding my patterns. And I'm really hopeful that this is going to |
| 1:42.6 | give you some clarity, some understanding, and |
| 1:46.2 | help you with what to do next. So let's let's get into it. The first sign that someone has |
| 1:55.1 | avoidant attachment is that when you feel that you're getting close, |
| 2:01.9 | they sabotage the closeness. |
| 2:05.1 | This is the typical approach, avoid cycle, right? |
| 2:10.3 | So there's some intensity. |
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