EP 606: What Secure Attachment Actually Feels Like ( Attachment Style SOS Series - Part 4)
Let’s Get Vulnerable: Relationship and Dating Advice
Dr. Morgan Anderson
4.6 • 1.1K Ratings
🗓️ 3 December 2025
⏱️ 42 minutes
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Summary
If you’ve ever wondered what real secure attachment feels like, not the Instagram version, not the watered-down definition, but the lived, embodied, grounded experience, this episode is for you. In this final installment of the Attachment Style SOS Series, I’m walking you through what secure attachment looks like in your nervous system, your identity, your dating life, and your relationships. My hope is that this episode helps you finally understand what you're building toward and reminds you that becoming secure is your birthright.
Inside the episode, we cover:
- What secure attachment actually feels like in your body — the calm, presence, self-trust, and openness that come from a regulated nervous system.
- The identity of a secure person — clear boundaries, emotional maturity, interdependence, and the ability to stay anchored in yourself.
- How secure attachment shows up in dating and relationships — slow-build connection, healthy conflict, choosing availability, and leaving chaos behind.
If you’ve been listening to this series thinking, “This is what I want for myself… but I don’t know how to get there,” I want you to know this:
➡️ You can become securely attached.
➡️ You can rewire your brain.
➡️ You can return home to the version of you who trusts, loves, and receives love.
And if you’re ready for real support…
This is the FINAL call to apply to the Empowered.Secure.Loved Program.
The program has helped over a thousand people become securely attached and if your heart has been whispering “I’m meant for this,” this is your sign.
👉 Apply to Empowered.Secure.Loved™ now — applications close soon!
🔗 Additional Episode Links:
- Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz → https://drmorgancoaching.com/quiz
- Follow me on IG → @drmorgancoaching
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Let's Get Vulnerable podcast. I'm your host, Dr. Morgan Anderson, psychologist, relationship coach, attachment theory expert, creator of the ESL relationship method, author of Love Magnet and Athletic Wear Connoisseur. My mission is to help you raise yourself worth, have great relationships, and step confidently into the next level of your life. |
| 0:21.6 | Each week, two episodes will air featuring expert advice, live coaching, and tips, showing |
| 0:27.6 | you exactly how to improve your life and attract a healthy relationship. |
| 0:31.6 | You deserve to feel empowered, secure, and love. |
| 0:35.8 | Buckle up and Let's Get Vulnerable. |
| 0:41.3 | Welcome to the Let's Get Vulnerable podcast. |
| 0:44.4 | I'm your host, Dr. Morgan, and today's episode is the last episode in our series, Attachment |
| 0:51.0 | Styles, SOS. |
| 0:52.9 | This episode, we're talking about secure attachment. And you may be wondering, |
| 0:58.2 | why are you talking about secure attachment? And I want you to realize so many of us within secure |
| 1:05.9 | styles, we don't actually know what secure attachment is like. You may have this idea, but it's really |
| 1:14.3 | important to me that we go in depth of what is secure attachment, right? If you've ever wondered |
| 1:21.3 | what it actually feels like, not the social media version, not the oversimplified version, but the lived, grounded, embodied |
| 1:30.4 | version. This episode is for you. You know, maybe you listen to the anxious attachment episode |
| 1:36.6 | or the avoidant episode or even the disorganized episode and you felt like, oh, wow, someone finally |
| 1:43.0 | gets me. And now you're thinking, okay, Dr. Morgan, |
| 1:47.1 | but how do I actually become secure? What does secure even mean? What does it feel like in my body? |
| 1:54.2 | What does it look like? What does it sound like? And you're wondering, is it even possible for me? |
| 2:00.7 | Is there something so horribly wrong with me that secure attachment is not possible? And I do want to remind you, we know you can rewire your brain. Neuropasticity. You are able to form secure attachment, even if you've never had it before in your |
| 2:21.5 | life. Because here's the truth. You were actually born secure. That is our, I think about it as like |
| 2:31.3 | our birthright. Secure attachment is your natural state when you're |
| 2:35.8 | nurtured, when you're cared for, when you have emotional safety, your body actually already |
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