You're listening to episode 53 of the baggage reclaim sessions.

I'm your host Natalie Lou, offer of baggage reclaim.com, where I help people to offload the shady relationships and emotional baggage that block healthy self-esteem and loving relationships.

This week I talk about why it's time to learn how to stay in your own lane,

and I also talk about the importance of distinguishing

between preferences and programming.

Hello there.

So what are we kicking off the show with today?

Well, I want to talk about preferences over programming.

So what I mean by this is when you think about how you live your life, what you do in your day to day, your choices, your decisions, your beliefs, how much of this is about your preferences and how much of this is about programming.

So what that means is preferences are your values.

These are your autonomous choices. These are your autonomous decisions. These are things

that you have given due consideration to. This is where you are very conscious

aware and presence. So you try to do the things that are in alignment with you. You try to do things that are

congruent with who you are. When it comes to programming, programming is what you do when you are blindly following a pattern.

It's where you're doing things that people have taught you before,

but you haven't necessarily considered does this represent me does this speak for who I am

Am I parroting somebody else's views or am I actually talking about my own viewpoint.

And it is important for us to distinguish between preferences and programming because adulthood

is all about unlearning.

So it's unlearning all of the unproductive stuff that you've picked up along the way and

figuring out who you are.

So that's distinguishing between everything that you have picked up along the way in childhood through things that have been directly taught to you as a result of beliefs that you have taught yourself about various different experiences, the values that have been put upon you, some that you may have thought,

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