Ep #327: Consent and Requests in Conversation

Feminist Wellness

Béa Victoria Albina

Lifecoaching, Holistic, Feminist, Self-improvement, Fatigue, Alternative Health, Feelingstuckinlife, Spirituality, Healthygut, Health & Fitness, Mindbodyconnection, Guthealth, Connectionsbetweenthoughtsandhealth, Education, Ibs, Gutmicrobiome, Feminism

4.9 • 988 Ratings

🗓️ 22 May 2025

⏱️ 18 minutes

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#327: Imagine cutting veggies after a long day when your partner bursts in venting about their coworker. You care deeply, but right now, your shoulders tense, your jaw locks, and you're just not available – though you never say so. Instead, you nod, make the right noises, and count the seconds until it ends. Later, you're both left feeling vaguely disconnected, with a subtle rupture hanging in the air between you.

This disconnection happens when we skip conversational consent – not just physical consent, but emotional and energetic consent too. Most of us were never taught to pause and check, "Hey, are you available for this?"

Join me this week as I break down the truth about consent and requests in conversation, and what it means to name what you need. You’ll learn why asking for consent is a practice that’s especially crucial for those of us working to overcome emotional outsourcing tendencies, and how incorporating conversational consent helps us create genuine connection in our relationships.

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0:00.0	If you feel like you're doing all of the things, but change never seems to stick, especially when life gets lifey and you always end up back in the same old loops, come to this is your life, integration and sustainable change. It's the final of four workshops in a series all about getting unstuck, happening Wednesday, May 28th, from 8 to 9.30 p.m. Eastern on Zoom.
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0:41.1	This is feminist wellness, and I'm your host,
0:44.2	nurse practitioner, functional medicine expert, and life coach,
0:45.7	Baye of Victoria Albina.
0:50.9	I'll show you how to get unstuck, drop the anxiety, perfectionism, and codependency,
0:53.0	so you can live from your beautiful heart.
0:55.5	Welcome, my love. Let's get started.
1:06.7	Hello, hello, my love. I hope this finds you doing so well. So picture this. You're standing in the kitchen, cutting veggies after a really long day at the end of a really long week and you're trying
1:13.3	to decompress. Your partner walks in and starts venting about their coworker, you know that guy, right?
1:19.2	They're venting again. You love your partner. You care. You care about them so much. But this
1:25.2	evening you feel your shoulders tense, your jaw lock. You're getting annoyed.
1:30.3	Because you're not resource. You're not grounded. You're not present. You're not actually
1:35.2	available, but they just launched in on it. And you, you nod. You keep chopping. By the end of the
1:43.9	conversation, you're holding your breath,
1:45.8	trying to breathe through gritted teeth, trying not to snap. You say, mm-hmm, and oh, wow, that sucks
1:53.9	a few times. Inside, you're counting the seconds till it's over. Later that night, they seem
2:00.2	annoyed at you, and you're like, not even sure why. You're lying in seconds till it's over. Later that night, they seem annoyed at you, and you're
2:01.1	like, not even sure why. You're lying in bed, replaying the whole interaction, wondering if you're a bad
2:07.2	partner, if you're selfish for needing space, if they're disappointed in you, if you're a royal
2:12.3	F-up. Or maybe you're the one who had the hard day. Your nervous system is spinning.
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